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Old 07-08-2017, 10:17 PM
Status: " la recherche d'un emploi" (set 26 days ago)
 
Location: South Bay Native
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If a person voted for one of the following two 2016 presidential candidates - i.e. the Republican candidate or the Libertarian candidate - it vividly shows the state of one's psyche, level of knowledge, level of intellect, level of information held, level of with whom one identifies, and values.

So yes, it's important, and I wouldn't relish a friend of these values and level of information about society, history, politics, sociology, psychology, goals of society.

It's not a matter of being narrow-minded, it's a matter of values and knowledge.
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People of any political persuasion who think they "know it all" because their version of the facts is completely pure and error free because their preferred information sources told them so.
Yes, this....
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Old 07-09-2017, 06:09 AM
 
Location: Texas
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Our city just got screwed into getting the incumbent mayor back bc an independent split the vote for the guys addressing the horrible crap going on.

If you stop and think just for a moment, there might be a reason your friend voted for someone that doesn't fit your narrow-minded definitions.

Breaking a friendship over political _candidate_ means you never really were friends in the first place.
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Old 07-09-2017, 06:25 AM
 
Location: Coastal Georgia
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I have a friend who can be embarrassing in public. I would have ended the relationship if we had not moved to a different state. Now, I tolerate her bad qualities once a year, or so.
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Old 07-11-2017, 01:30 PM
 
Location: Paranoid State
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Breaking a friendship over political _candidate_ means you never really were friends in the first place.
Reasonable people can disagree on policies and politics. The deal breaker is when the people are not reasonable -- that is, they do not listen to reason.
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Old 07-11-2017, 03:57 PM
 
Location: Colorado
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I'm not obligated to be friends with anybody, and no one is entitled to my friendship. So if I discover upon acquaintance that you not only voted for Trump but still support the guy... I am not calling you names or slinging any indictments against your character. I can however safely say that I don't want to be friends with you. I can still be polite, without having to become your pal.

"I'm not your buddy, guy!"

I'd go further to say, anyone who is super passionate about something that I am not and seems very determined to drag me into it, especially if they also don't want to hear about the things I am passionate about. Better if we have some strong interests in common, especially if one or both of us practically lives for some certain thing.

Anyone who "HATES" any particular kind of animal. Look, I prefer cats over dogs. Some dog breeds (and a few cat breeds too) I really am not very fond of. I don't HATE an animal. Except for wasps. Wasps are jerks.

If you give me a hard time about my eating habits. I have a healthy body. I am at a good weight and always have been and I look nice in that respect and my bloodwork checks out. My picky eating is none of anybody's business. If it upsets you, we don't need to be friends. (Some people seem offended by my picky eating and small "snacky" appetite.)

If you bring trouble or drama into my life, if you're a hard drug or alcohol addict, especially if you get hammered and act obnoxious, if you make me feel taken advantage of...I am going to create some boundaries for my own protection and you will find yourself on the other side.

Oh, and anyone who reminds me too much of my ex husband, especially if they are in the middle of a troubled marriage and the entire situation reminds me too much of my divorce. I am still trying to process the damage from all that stuff and put it behind me, and do not need in-your-face reminders.
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Old 07-12-2017, 12:38 PM
 
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I get offended easily and I take every slight personally, so EVERYTHING is a deal breaker for me.

I hate people. I hate when my high school friends reunite and don't invite me to their dinner, and I find out via someone else's Facebook account (I don't have one). I hate when said high school friend and I had a great friendship via long e-mails, but her e-mails got shorter and shorter to the point where she stopped replying to me altogether. If she doesn't want to talk to me, why the hell does she still remember my birthday every year?

I hate being left out of things when another so-called "friend group" gets together and doesn't invite me, and I find out afterwards.

I am sick of being left out. People suck.
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Old 07-12-2017, 06:04 PM
 
Location: Jupiter
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Our city just got screwed into getting the incumbent mayor back bc an independent split the vote for the guys addressing the horrible crap going on.

If you stop and think just for a moment, there might be a reason your friend voted for someone that doesn't fit your narrow-minded definitions.

Breaking a friendship over political _candidate_ means you never really were friends in the first place.
I'm not obligated to stay friends with anyone. If someone does something or vote for someone I dislike then our values are different and I say goodbye. No exceptions.
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Old 07-12-2017, 06:05 PM
 
Location: Jupiter
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Once again you misread and misinterpreted the content of my post. This is the 2nd time in 2 or 3 days you've done this!

that's okay, carry on.
That wasn't directed towards you but ok.
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Old 07-12-2017, 10:17 PM
 
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I get offended easily and I take every slight personally, so EVERYTHING is a deal breaker for me.

I hate people. I hate when my high school friends reunite and don't invite me to their dinner, and I find out via someone else's Facebook account (I don't have one). I hate when said high school friend and I had a great friendship via long e-mails, but her e-mails got shorter and shorter to the point where she stopped replying to me altogether. If she doesn't want to talk to me, why the hell does she still remember my birthday every year?

I hate being left out of things when another so-called "friend group" gets together and doesn't invite me, and I find out afterwards.

I am sick of being left out. People suck.
Read your post. Would you like to associate with the writer?
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Old 07-13-2017, 10:53 AM
 
Location: PA
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Some of the dealbreakers I have refer to someone I just blocked on Facebook. Lately, every time I have seen her post something, no matter what, I just want to reach through the screen and punch her in her face.

People who put down others instead of addressing the things that they don't like about themselves in a positive manner. Things like posting memes on Facebook with derogatory things about thin or attractive women instead of, I don't know, going for a walk or getting a more flattering hairstyle - something, anything more positive than being hateful towards others that have something that they do not.

People (and I am sorry, but I have seen this with mostly women) that will dump even their close friends for an SO and then expect said friends to be around when things with the SO are not going well. Nope.

People who refer to others with differing opinions, political or otherwise, in a derogatory manner. The woman - I can hardly bring myself to call her one because that would imply some modicum of maturity - called another woman a "see-you-next Tuesday" (except she used the actual word that I am referring to) because she said Obamacare helped a lot of people. And anyone who doesn't agree with her political views is an idiot, a moron, and some other things that I cannot even post here. Oh, and hypocrites. She posted a meme about those who are pro-choice being a bunch of baby-killers and I was awfully close to asking her "What about the abortion that YOU had back in the day?".

I didn't. But boy do I feel better now that I do not have to see her face or her opinions all over Facebook. And I am in little danger of having to put up with it in real life these days either. I am a fairly mild-mannered person and I can let a lot slide, but some people will really do it for ya.
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