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I'm generally the leader. I come up with the plans to do something, figure out the details, and get everyone else on board. Usually when I don't have a hand in planning things among my friends, it never turns out well or ends up being disappointing.
Sometimes it's a good thing, because obviously I always pick something that I will enjoy doing too. But it's also a bad thing, I've been the best man at 4-5 different weddings now because my friends want me to plan the bachelor party and all that and they are confident it won't suck if I do it. But that gets expensive and tiring. I'm really glad almost all of my close friends are married now!
I'm usually the one my female friends can trust to come to, talk to, and not worry about being hit on. I know what it's like wanting a male friend and not having to worry about constant flirting, so I'm that guy for them. We talk, we vibe, we joke, we even have "girly" conversations about attractive guys and they tell me all about makeup stuff (cause I'm a curious clueless guy). We can have talks about stuff other men just don't want to talk about and I'm fine with it all cause I'm incredibly secure in myself, yet I'm not that 'gay guy friend every girl needs'. I just respect our friendship and like to keep things that way. They'd know if I wanted to take things further, anyway. I'm very direct about it.
That and I'm that direct/blunt friend that puts you in your place with certain things. I appreciate getting the same if I'm going too far, but I refuse to call myself your friend and hear you saying some seriously backwards ****. I don't tolerate racism, gender bias (towards men and women since people think it just applies to females), xenophobia, anti-lgbt stuff, and straight up ignorance. I don't care if a certain religion makes you uncomfortable, doesn't give you any type of a right to talk down to someone who worships that religion and I've had this talk with several people.
I would probably be best dubbed as the "observer", the "watcher". The patient one who keeps his eyes and ears open for troubles both within and without of the group. Let others plan and fuss over the details.
I used to be a Branch Manager for a large financial institution. My friends have always seen me as the smart one when it comes to money. They always call me with questions in regards to what they should do with their 401k's etc. I have done numerous budget plans for them as well. I definitely don't feel like I'm an expert in this matter, but I don't mind giving them advice and helping them.
I'm known as the funny one, and the one to give advice on love and career. I'm middle energy with my group. I'm also the most outspoken... and judgmental. Darn, it's a wonder I HAVE friends!!
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for one group of friends I am the glue. Basically we all went to same high school but we weren't friends (some of us were but most were acquaintance). Over the years I became close friends with each and during my wedding we all started hanging out together (they were my bridesmaid) and now we just hangout. Everyone is friends to some extent but if I don't attend, things tend to fall apart. I don't do anything for the group but think they like me being the connector
For another group i am the smart one or the one that keeps everyone grounded. This group is full of MD and PhD while I am one of the few regular degree holder. I also stayed back in our home town while they moved out and now back or close by. Because they all had similar life experience (lived on their own, alway from home town, fairly independent, didn't start working until almost 30 years old), it seems like I have more LIFE experience than them & they always seem to welcome my opinion which is different from their POV.
Another group of friends I am the FUN one or the planner. The one that gives time because most of the other friends are moms with 1-2 kids and don't have time but really appreciate me putting stuff together.
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