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Old 06-23-2017, 08:15 PM
 
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This will make the next two weeks interesting, to put it tactfully.

I made the offer in hopes it wouldn't happen and now it is. Pray for me.

At best I can hope being under the same roof will show her a side of me she doesn't like and we'll agree to get out of each other's lives and faces for the benefit of our mutual mental health. Her helpful suggestions can often spill over into spouse-like nagging, which I tolerate (and fume over in private) when I can put the phone down. Confrontations will be a tad more difficult to avoid when we're in the same house

Will she wind her neck in and respect boundaries when she's under my roof? I hope so, but I doubt it. My learned friend, you see, is a bit of a drama magnet. Having helped nurse her through several breakups (which she instigated), I now understand that if there isn't a pre-existing conflict or resentment, she will create one so she has a reason to feel hurt.

I deal with this sort of thing when I have to, but I prefer to keep it at arm's length as I do most people and the nonsense that goes with letting them into your world. I am a solitary man who likes my space and privacy. Perhaps the fortnight to come will serve as a reminder to protect them at all costs.
And it sounds like so are you. Because someone who really doesn't want the drama wouldn't have invited her to stay with you.

If she can afford to have a remodel done, she can afford to stay at motel or hotel for the 2 weeks.
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Old 06-23-2017, 09:23 PM
 
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Well, i HOPE that this isnt a Romantic relationship LOL! It doesnt sound like it will end up to well if it was


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I have Lady Gaga's "Bad Romance" in my head.
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Old 06-23-2017, 09:42 PM
 
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I have Lady Gaga's "Bad Romance" in my head.
In my world there ain't no other kind.
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Old 06-23-2017, 09:52 PM
 
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In my world there ain't no other kind.
Awww, cripes, friend!
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Old 06-23-2017, 10:24 PM
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All of the politeness and feelings of comradarie will be out the window as soon as Ms. Kitty pukes on your favorite chair.
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Old 06-23-2017, 10:39 PM
 
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This will make the next two weeks interesting, to put it tactfully.

I made the offer in hopes it wouldn't happen and now it is. Pray for me.

At best I can hope being under the same roof will show her a side of me she doesn't like and we'll agree to get out of each other's lives and faces for the benefit of our mutual mental health. Her helpful suggestions can often spill over into spouse-like nagging, which I tolerate (and fume over in private) when I can put the phone down. Confrontations will be a tad more difficult to avoid when we're in the same house

Will she wind her neck in and respect boundaries when she's under my roof? I hope so, but I doubt it. My learned friend, you see, is a bit of a drama magnet. Having helped nurse her through several breakups (which she instigated), I now understand that if there isn't a pre-existing conflict or resentment, she will create one so she has a reason to feel hurt.

I deal with this sort of thing when I have to, but I prefer to keep it at arm's length as I do most people and the nonsense that goes with letting them into your world. I am a solitary man who likes my space and privacy. Perhaps the fortnight to come will serve as a reminder to protect them at all costs.
This makes you a hypocrite who deserves everything you have coming.
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Old 06-24-2017, 04:51 AM
 
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This will make the next two weeks interesting, to put it tactfully.

I made the offer in hopes it wouldn't happen and now it is. Pray for me.

At best I can hope being under the same roof will show her a side of me she doesn't like and we'll agree to get out of each other's lives and faces for the benefit of our mutual mental health. Her helpful suggestions can often spill over into spouse-like nagging, which I tolerate (and fume over in private) when I can put the phone down. Confrontations will be a tad more difficult to avoid when we're in the same house

Will she wind her neck in and respect boundaries when she's under my roof? I hope so, but I doubt it. My learned friend, you see, is a bit of a drama magnet. Having helped nurse her through several breakups (which she instigated), I now understand that if there isn't a pre-existing conflict or resentment, she will create one so she has a reason to feel hurt.

I deal with this sort of thing when I have to, but I prefer to keep it at arm's length as I do most people and the nonsense that goes with letting them into your world. I am a solitary man who likes my space and privacy. Perhaps the fortnight to come will serve as a reminder to protect them at all costs.
Why then have you invited this person to come live with you? You said that she has no boundaries even on the phone....You have to be having an internal conflict meltdown.....your statements diametrically oppose your actions.

Seriously, rethink this......because if you know all this going in, and are anticipating this much drama and dysfunction......then what are you doing??? And why are you doing it?

You need to analyse why you are volunteering to allow this right under your roof.

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Old 06-24-2017, 05:39 AM
 
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It was one of things you do, like exchanging addresses at the end of a holiday, without expecting for a second that they'll turn up on your doorstep three months later.
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Old 06-24-2017, 06:18 AM
 
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I think you can get through this. If the friendship has lasted as long as it apparently has, then it is worth it to try and make the experience pleasant. Start out by cheerfully giving her some few "house rules."

Make your expectations clear about whether you ntend to share meals. Ask that she be conscientious about changing cat litter. Show her a good place for a cat bowl. If you have strong TV or media preferences, discuss this up front.

You are not entertaining her; you are providing her a place to be while her house is being renovated. I'd advise treating her less as a guest, and more as a roommate.

Good luck!
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Old 06-24-2017, 07:23 AM
 
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It was one of things you do, like exchanging addresses at the end of a holiday, without expecting for a second that they'll turn up on your doorstep three months later.
So, you really should check your impulsive tendencies......Most people don't make offers to board someone unless they really want to.

However, it should make for some interesting updates....keep us posted.
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