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Old 06-24-2017, 08:54 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I don't waste a lot of time judging people to the extent where I would make a very long list of their perceived "faults".
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Old 06-24-2017, 10:28 PM
 
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if she is a relative, and cool with you and your opinion, let her know that life is not about riding on mommy and daddys bank. She is acting/living/being immature , and therefore lives immature. Let her know what she looks like, or who she looks like, and how fake and flaky that life seems. money and make up cant hide the smell of #2, and her #2 stinks!

ohhh, how nice, the un married 30 years old glamour girl, with nothing to offer , but her pretty prissy butt, but what happens after her coochie falls off? she will loose her mind in the mirror.


She may be beyond repair, and maybe , if you are open with her parents, suggest they cut her loose, to learn how to live. Parents do need to "let go" of Adult children, They are doing more harm than good , in keeping this going. the are breeding a monster.
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Old 06-24-2017, 10:46 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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if she is a relative, and cool with you and your opinion, let her know that life is not about riding on mommy and daddys bank. She is acting/living/being immature , and therefore lives immature. Let her know what she looks like, or who she looks like, and how fake and flaky that life seems. money and make up cant hide the smell of #2, and her #2 stinks!

ohhh, how nice, the un married 30 years old glamour girl, with nothing to offer , but her pretty prissy butt, but what happens after her coochie falls off? she will loose her mind in the mirror.

She may be beyond repair, and maybe , if you are open with her parents, suggest they cut her loose, to learn how to live. Parents do need to "let go" of Adult children, They are doing more harm than good , in keeping this going. the are breeding a monster.
Cases like this surface from time to time on the relationships forum. Some guy posts that he can't believe he was able to "get" such a beautiful gf, but then when they moved in together, he discovered she doesn't do anything. She doesn't cook or clean, has no job, is supposed to be finishing school but doesn't really do much about it, and he's working full time, going to school, and paying all the rent and expenses. He says "I have the greatest girlfriend! But there's just this one little problem--she's lazy. How do I motivate her to contribute to the household?

It turns out the parents give her all the money she needs, which she spends shopping with her gf's and getting her nails done. We've had several threads like this over a couple of years.


What are parents of such daughters thinking? Why do they enable this? Are these old-fashioned parents, who think that a woman's only "job" is to snag a man who will pay for the lifestyle that the girl is accustomed to?


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Old 06-25-2017, 12:22 AM
 
Location: Missouri
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She sounds really hot to me. I'm a similar aged guy. Into women that are really feminine, like to travel, workout, do yoga, go out in nature, stuff like that. If I knew the woman you describe in person, I would ask her out.
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Old 06-25-2017, 02:31 AM
 
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....What do you think of a person like this and what would you do if they were a close family member? Be honest
What I think is that I would not to be within ten feet of such a creature (assuming the description is reasonably accurate), and I can presume ditto about her parents.

She would be a non-problem in my life.
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Old 06-25-2017, 04:03 AM
 
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I don't waste a lot of time judging people to the extent where I would make a very long list of their perceived "faults".
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Old 06-25-2017, 06:56 AM
 
Location: Buenos Aires, Argentina
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Cases like this surface from time to time on the relationships forum. Some guy posts that he can't believe he was able to "get" such a beautiful gf, but then when they moved in together, he discovered she doesn't do anything. She doesn't cook or clean, has no job, is supposed to be finishing school but doesn't really do much about it, and he's working full time, going to school, and paying all the rent and expenses. He says "I have the greatest girlfriend! But there's just this one little problem--she's lazy. How do I motivate her to contribute to the household?

It turns out the parents give her all the money she needs, which she spends shopping with her gf's and getting her nails done. We've had several threads like this over a couple of years.


What are parents of such daughters thinking? Why do they enable this? Are these old-fashioned parents, who think that a woman's only "job" is to snag a man who will pay for the lifestyle that the girl is accustomed to?


Agree. Its awful and kind of sexist. They raised her to be a peace of meat while his brother became a PHD and college proffesor. Maybe they DO think women only worth is their physical appearance, wich is sad.

It has not been working for them, though, their daugther cant seem to get a boyfriend. She did go out with guys, but they ditch her after a few dates or after banging her. Never brought a guy home or had a formal boyfriend or even someone that dared hold hands with her in public.


So, apparently, men DO NOT like dumb, useless women who cant carry a conversation. Shocked!
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Old 06-25-2017, 09:49 AM
 
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I think this person is living THE LIFE and I wanna be her and have her life lol.
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Old 06-25-2017, 10:45 AM
 
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I think this person is living THE LIFE and I wanna be her and have her life lol.
These people live The Life until their parents are older and can't take care of them anymore. Then they're destitute with no skills and no way to take care of themselves. Unfortunately, it often falls on people like the siblings (aka the OP's brother) to step in and try to figure out what to do so their relative isn't out on the street at age 45 when the parents are at retirement age or older and can't afford to support a dependent child anymore. Believe me when I say that parents like this are doing their children no favors.

It's not just parents of female children who do this. There are certainly male children who are like this as well.
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Old 06-25-2017, 10:48 AM
 
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These people live The Life until their parents are older and can't take care of them anymore. Then they're destitute with no skills and no way to take care of themselves. Unfortunately, it often falls on people like the siblings (aka the OP's brother) to step in and try to figure out what to do so their relative isn't out on the street at age 45 when the parents are at retirement age or older and can't afford to support a dependent child anymore. Believe me when I say that parents like this are doing their children no favors.

It's not just parents of female children who do this. There are certainly male children who are like this as well.
Yeah I know. I was mostly joking. I mean the idea of it all sounds quite nice. Vacations, being pampered, no responsibility, etc. But in actuality I would only want her life for a few weeks out of the year.
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