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Old 06-27-2017, 10:02 AM
 
Location: San Antonio
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Destiny74 - I think you are dealing with your sister perfectly.
Don't listen to the people who say you should use your words and talk to her. You're handling it just fine.

I am dealing with a similar situation, and am just freezing the person out, like you are. They know what they did.
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Old 06-27-2017, 10:06 AM
 
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I read the list but not any of that was the sister directing her behavior to the OP.
Yes, it sounds more like third-hand gossip. If the sister never experienced any consequences by police or courts or even family members, then there are probably different versions of events.
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Old 06-27-2017, 10:24 AM
 
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Yes, it sounds more like third-hand gossip. If the sister never experienced any consequences by police or courts or even family members, then there are probably different versions of events.
I certainly don't doubt the stories, I've heard plenty of my own.

But if my friends and family are allowing this behavior, then I would stay away from all of those ratchet heifers.

They can have that skank.
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Old 06-28-2017, 10:08 AM
 
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Destiny74 - I think you are dealing with your sister perfectly.
Don't listen to the people who say you should use your words and talk to her. You're handling it just fine.

I am dealing with a similar situation, and am just freezing the person out, like you are. They know what they did.

I agree totally. I'm also dealing with a sister who's deserved to be frozen out for many years and I finally decided to do just that.
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Old 07-01-2017, 07:42 PM
 
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From personal experience, even if one tells a closely related family member that there are limits/boundaries on the relationship - those limits/boundaries are not always respected.
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Old 07-02-2017, 01:46 PM
 
Location: on the wind
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I agree. For someone like that I suspect it would be like waving a red flag in front of a bull. Game on!
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Old 07-02-2017, 02:00 PM
 
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yes, it sounds more like third-hand gossip. If the sister never experienced any consequences by police or courts or even family members, then there are probably different versions of events.
+1.
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Old 07-03-2017, 11:33 AM
 
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You have not told your sister any clear boundaries so you can't expect her to know what they are .

You can easily block her from texting you and your son ( unless he is an adult and then it's his decision)

Going to the same events that she will be at is asking for drama and makes it seem that you
want everyone to side with you. Don't go because that makes the event about you & your sister.

I don't think it is a reasonable boundary expectation to tell a family member to not look at you, speak to you or come into the same room as you at a family event. You are avoiding her, not the other way around. You have to not attend.

So if she can't phone or text and you never see her what other issues would you have ??
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Old 07-03-2017, 01:01 PM
 
Location: California
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Block her number and stop dwelling.
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