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All my friends were mortified. I'm curious if you agree with them.
I started tossing out boxes of old pictures a few weeks ago. I threw out tons of old pics. The pictures I thought each person in the picture would enjoy of themselves, I mailed them. Some were three or four decades old. All my old friends who receive the pictures called and said they appreciated that I sent them!
I sent my long-ago boyfriend in college a photo taken with his college roommates. My girlfriends all thought it was inappropriate. I didn't think about it being a problem. I wasn't in the picture. I didn't put a return address on the mail....just a note enclosed with the picture saying I thought he would enjoy seeing the picture of himself and his old roomies again.
I'm long, happily married. He's long married, too.
What do you guys think?
I think it was a very nice gesture. I recently received a group photo of a bunch of friends who all took a cruise together in 1995. It was a delightful surprise, which brought back fun memories.
I think you need new friends. It isn't as if that's the only picture you mailed out. You said you mailed others as well. Sometimes people just need to find/create drama - sound like your friends?
I always ask myself... "what's the point"? It stops me and makes me really think more, longer about what I am about to do. I think there might be more to it than you realize. And why would you feel the need to add you are happily married?
Do you not think he has pics of himself way back when? Again, I think there is more to this.
I've never quite gotten this way of thinking. Seems to be really searching and wringing to find something wrong with this.
I have and still do keep in touch with a couple exes now and then. And I would have no problem with something as innocuous as this. If I had a partner who was jealous or thought this inappropriate, I would be a little annoyed.
I think you need new friends. It isn't as if that's the only picture you mailed out. You said you mailed others as well. Sometimes people just need to find/create drama - sound like your friends?
OP, I see nothing wrong with what you did. Just a little nostalgia that will hopefully make him reminisce and smile.
I also understand why you mentioned that you're happily married.
Hertfordshire and NY Annie nailed it.
Unfortunately, some people have the "hookup" mindset. They assume you wanted to rekindle an old romance or that your marriage must be lacking something. For your friends to be 'mortified' is just plain silly. Maybe they've been watching too many movies/soap operas. hmmmm, wonder where their minds must be.........
However, to be fair, maybe they were afraid he might have gotten 'weird' and he might try to find you, stalk you, and show up at your door. Strange things sometimes happen.
All my friends were mortified. I'm curious if you agree with them.
I started tossing out boxes of old pictures a few weeks ago. I threw out tons of old pics. The pictures I thought each person in the picture would enjoy of themselves, I mailed them. Some were three or four decades old. All my old friends who receive the pictures called and said they appreciated that I sent them!
I sent my long-ago boyfriend in college a photo taken with his college roommates. My girlfriends all thought it was inappropriate. I didn't think about it being a problem. I wasn't in the picture. I didn't put a return address on the mail....just a note enclosed with the picture saying I thought he would enjoy seeing the picture of himself and his old roomies again.
I'm long, happily married. He's long married, too.
What do you guys think?
Often even if I don't agree, I can surmise what the opposition could be. Whether right or wrong.
I am not sure what the problem could possibly be with sending him this photo whether you are in it or not.
All my friends were mortified. I'm curious if you agree with them.
I started tossing out boxes of old pictures a few weeks ago. I threw out tons of old pics. The pictures I thought each person in the picture would enjoy of themselves, I mailed them. Some were three or four decades old. All my old friends who receive the pictures called and said they appreciated that I sent them!
I sent my long-ago boyfriend in college a photo taken with his college roommates. My girlfriends all thought it was inappropriate. I didn't think about it being a problem. I wasn't in the picture. I didn't put a return address on the mail....just a note enclosed with the picture saying I thought he would enjoy seeing the picture of himself and his old roomies again.
I'm long, happily married. He's long married, too.
What do you guys think?
I did the same thing, even met some of them for coffee.
If you ask people for opinions, what you often get is their fear.
They say more about themselves than anyone else cares to know.
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hmmmm, wonder where their minds must be.........
whether you are in it or not.
