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I'm guessing your are female SLS? If so, I feel for you, men can opt out of these parties and usually no one will say a word but it can be awkward for a woman who IS expected to join and celebrate. And it IS kind of a celebration of their sex and/or love lives.
Maybe the equivalent for guys are bachelor parties but those are after hours and often can be declined.
Yeah, I often don't feel right about these things and several times I've been invited to weddings of work acquaintances! No thanks.
But maybe you can pick your battles, if you mostly like some lady getting married or having a kid, I'd participate in a minimal way. If you don't like them at all or barely know them, maybe you dip out some kind of way.
Thanks for understanding! Yes, I'm female and most of my coworkers are. Like I said, I work closely with these people and they're decent people, so I wouldn't want to offend anyone. I just don't think it's fair that they don't have to pretend to care or participate in celebrations of non-sexual events in my life. And I don't even particularly want a celebration for myself for anything. I just don't like always having to celebrate others just because they're having sex.
Setting aside the issue of office celebrations, what I find odd is that you link these events to sex. I hope that you are working with your therapist on why celebrating an engagement or pregnancy = celebrating people's sex lives. IMO, that's just bizarre.
What's bizarre about it? Take away the sex and you're unlikely to have an engagement or pregnancy. I'd rather celebrate someone's pet adoption.
Thanks for understanding! Yes, I'm female and most of my coworkers are. Like I said, I work closely with these people and they're decent people, so I wouldn't want to offend anyone. I just don't think it's fair that they don't have to pretend to care or participate in celebrations of non-sexual events in my life. And I don't even particularly want a celebration for myself for anything. I just don't like always having to celebrate others just because they're having sex.
Trust me, if your attitude toward your co-workers' celebrations reflects your statements here at all, I'm pretty sure they'd just as soon you didn't "participate". No one likes a resentful congratulation.
It's moot trying to get you to understand why you're putting all the emphasis on "SEX" instead of events in people's lives.
We don't really celebrate anything non-sexual aside from retirements and I'm not old enough for that yet. Nothing else gets as much attention as marriage/pregnancy and both of those things usually involve sex.
Interesting how to correlate these events to merely sex.
When I hear of someone getting married, or engaged, or pregnant, I don't really think about their sex life.
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