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I still live at home and am 32. If people want to judge that, it says more about them then me. I work as a nanny and am single. Am hoping to save up enough to buy a place of my own but until then I am not going to be made to feel like a loser for staying put. I do 90% of the cooking and never ask for cars or money from my parents.
Don't judge, it isn't always as black and white as it seems.
I don't think most people are talking about people in your situation. Multi-generational households are fine if everyone pitches in in some way, and you are by doing the cooking,etc. You probably don't expect to have someone do your laundry and clean your room for you. You are working and saving and not taking money from the parents.
People are talking about mooches who take excessive money or cars or have their bills paid for, but never contribute much of either money towards their upkeep or who never do any household chores as their share of contributing.
FACT if you have 2 arms, two legs, are 25, and have a GED or above, you should not be living home with your parents. You should be acting like an adult and living like one.
I know a couple of guys like that, in their 40's and living at home. Seriously? When I was 18 I couldn't WAIT to get out of there. Independent! Pizza at 3am! GIRLS!!!!
FACT if you have 2 arms, two legs, are 25, and have a GED or above, you should not be living home with your parents. You should be acting like an adult and living like one.
Where are those rules written? Living in a multi-generational household is not the same thing as taking advantage of ones parents. And as parents age, they may be very grateful to have the help of one or more of their children to maintain their home.
FACT if you have 2 arms, two legs, are 25, and have a GED or above, you should not be living home with your parents. You should be acting like an adult and living like one.
Many cultures have traditions of multi-generational living; think "The Waltons." It also used to be rather common for one of the daughters of the family to remain single and live at home to help care for the parents as they aged. Many families take in the grandparents. My parents had a large number of children and we had our abuelita--my mother's mother--with us as well. Acting like an adult, at least in my opinion, is contributing to the functioning of the household and paying your bills. You can act and live like an adult anywhere and everywhere. A multi-generational household is different from the parents taking care of adult children as if they were minors.
But you are entitled to your opinion as well and to live your life according to it, but it is an opinion and not fact.
Many cultures have traditions of multi-generational living; think "The Waltons." It used to be rather common for one of the daughters of the family to remain single and live at home to help care for the parents as they aged. Many families take in the grandparents. My parents had a large number of children and we had our abuelita--my mother's mother--with us as well. Acting like an adult, at least in my opinion, is contributing to the functioning of the household and paying your bills. You can act and live like an adult anywhere and everywhere. A multi-generational household is different from the parents taking care of adult children as if they were minors.
I know some families who live this way, it works for them. No need to spend a lot of money buying houses when they can live together.
Sadly, a lot of Americans don't understand multi-generational living and just seem to interpret it as "adult kids mooching". And at least one poster here seems to think you have to be married to be an "adult". Some very rigid beliefs are expressed on this thread.
I had college friends who came from good families, not wealthy, but solid middle to upper-middle class. Their parents still paid for cell phones, cosigned for cars, etc. Same for a co-worker in her 30's who still called mommy and daddy for money when she had a decent full time job and would spend her entire paycheck shopping. Wtf? Mommy and daddy always fell for sad sob story because she could not manage money. It was until they got married that they had their own finances. I can understand still in college, etc, but in your 30's is ridiculous. Grow up and get a grip for reality.
I know some families who live this way, it works for them. No need to spend a lot of money buying houses when they can live together.
Sadly, a lot of Americans don't understand multi-generational living and just seem to interpret it as "adult kids mooching". And at least one poster here seems to think you have to be married to be an "adult". Some very rigid beliefs are expressed on this thread.
There does seem to be a fair amount of either adult kids mooching or parents not wanting to cut apron strings and that, no doubt, causes the confusion.
But you are absolutely right, pooling resources such as money and housing and sharing chores can often make life more secure for everyone. I was on my own at 18 because I relocated for a job, so I had to live on my own. I like living alone now that I am old and set in my ways. Many people like being on their own. It's great when there are choices.
FACT if you have 2 arms, two legs, are 25, and have a GED or above, you should not be living home with your parents. You should be acting like an adult and living like one.
People look at me like I have two heads because I have the same beliefs. Get out of mommy and daddy's house and be a damn adult.
I also don't understand why people want to stay at home. I like eating what I want when I want, coming and going as I please, having my rules only, keeping the house at the temperature I want it at, having the remote to myself, etc. etc.
People look at me like I have two heads because I have the same beliefs. Get out of mommy and daddy's house and be a damn adult.
I also don't understand why people want to stay at home. I like eating what I want when I want, coming and going as I please, having my rules only, keeping the house at the temperature I want it at, having the remote to myself, etc. etc.
Don't disagree, and I can't wait to move out myself (I'm 26), but not everyone is you or me.
At the end of the day, each family will do what works best for them.
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