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Okay, so it varies from night to night. You are a new member, they dont' know you well. This 12 that met earlier, some of them work together. Sounds like this could have happened,
At the office...
Person 1: Hey let's meet up early and get a game in
Person 2: Okay
Person 3: Okay
Person 4: Okay
Person 5: Okay
Person 6: Okay
Person 7: Okay
Person 8: Okay
Person 9: We need 3 more, I'll email Tom, Dick, and Harry.
That's a very feasible scenario; thanks for your input.
OP was determined that this was a personal affront from the moment she walked in the gym and saw they were mid-game, and nothing we say will change her mind.
Wrong. I asked for your opinions. So far you (who have responded) seem pretty divided on it.
I think some of you are giving Otterhere an awful lot of grief for something she did not do. She experienced something, and she is asking if she read the experience right or wrong. We don't need nitty gritty details, I don't think.
Otterhere, I think you read the situation right, and you are choosing to NOT consider this a personal affront. How were you to know that the coach would offer you special instruction? How were you to know that someone would take offense?
Just keep showing up, perhaps a little early, and keep on learning, and I think this will pass.
I think some of you are giving Otterhere an awful lot of grief for something she did not do. She experienced something, and she is asking if she read the experience right or wrong. We don't need nitty gritty details, I don't think.
Otterhere, I think you read the situation right, and you are choosing to NOT consider this a personal affront. How were you to know that the coach would offer you special instruction? How were you to know that someone would take offense?
Just keep showing up, perhaps a little early, and keep on learning, and I think this will pass.
Good advice - keep going if you like this activity. If it is pickleball, I have some cousins that love it - nothing would keep them away from playing.
I'm not confirming if it's tennis, volleyball, pickleball, badminton, or dueling with pistols. And still they keep prying. Wow.
If I had my mind made up about this, obviously I wouldn't bother asking; we can all certainly misread social cues at times.
So the coach was asking on e-mail why I left early, so I sort of hinted around about it, and he seemed absolutely clueless (seeing it as completely innocent). He in fact implied that I have a problem with waiting my turn, which is really insulting. But a typical male response (especially if the athletic type); not the foggiest idea how catty small-town women operate.
Letting it go, regardless of whether or not it was an orchestrated "FU," is very good advice. As long as things aren't (as) uncomfortable next time, I'm down with that.
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I'm not confirming if it's tennis, volleyball, pickleball, badminton, or dueling with pistols. And still they keep prying. Wow.
If I had my mind made up about this, obviously I wouldn't bother asking; we can all certainly misread social cues at times.
So the coach was asking on e-mail why I left early, so I sort of hinted around about it, and he seemed absolutely clueless (seeing it as completely innocent). He in fact implied that I have a problem with waiting my turn, which is really insulting. But a typical male response (especially if the athletic type); not the foggiest idea how catty small-town women operate.
Letting it go, regardless of whether or not it was an orchestrated "FU," is very good advice. As long as things aren't (as) uncomfortable next time, I'm down with that.
So he, in fact, picked up that you left in a huff. And it's the "other catty, small town" women? Or your behavior?
And "typical male response"? Oh please. And you wonder why you are having issues? As a woman, I'm embarrassed for you.
I think it's best you quit this team or whatever it is. Its already drama caused by you. It's all too much.
So he, in fact, picked up that you left in a huff. And it's the "other catty, small town" women? Or your behavior?
And "typical male response"? Oh please. And you wonder why you are having issues? As a woman, I'm embarrassed for you.
I think it's best you quit this team or whatever it is. Its already drama caused by you. It's all too much.
Nailed it.
Otterhere, come on. I believe you that one other woman probably did organize a freeze-out when she felt threatened by your burgeoning athletic interest.
But you HAVE to acknowledge that your last post (and yes, leaving early in a huff, which you DID) exemplified the cattiness you're bucking against here.
I regret leaving (it wasn't "in a huff," but calmly) but, hey, I'm not immune from emotion and never said I was perfect. I didn't post to "buck against" the cattiness so much as to confirm it in my own mind.
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