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This is just weird to me. As a guest, if someone had a previously planned social obligation that they wished or felt obligated to attend, and it naturally would be inappropriate for me/us to join them, then I would insist that they attend that event and leave me/us to our own devices for a few hours. Gawd! There is nothing worse than a house guest that needs to be coddled and entertained the whole time visiting. As a host, I wouldn't feel awkward at all not to invite guests to someone else's event to which they were not invited to. What the hell is wrong with people?!
I agree. If they knew beforehand, they shouldn't get upset that you attend and leave them be for half the day.
If this is a standing social commitment, then you will be able to meet the future "commitments" later. These are "dear" guests, so I think you should prioritize them and their comfort. You don't get to spend too much time with them normally, correct? So spend this time with them, because the commitment will pick up again next time.
How regularly do these houseguests visit? And was there any way for their visit to be scheduled at a time other than your standing commitment?
Also, how difficult would it be for you to miss the standing commitment? If you're not there, will the event go on as usual, or will it be compromised or even forced to be cancelled?
And as others have asked, are the houseguests mainly here to visit you, or is it a combination of wanting to see you but also sightsee in your city?
All else being equal, you should have (maybe you already did) told your guests that you'll be glad to host them, but you already have plans on one of the days that can't be changed, and you hope they'll go and have fun in your absence.
All else being equal, you should have (maybe you already did) told your guests that you'll be glad to host them, but you already have plans on one of the days that can't be changed, and you hope they'll go and have fun in your absence.
This is what I am doing.
The guests are pretty casual and don't really need 24/7 concierge service. The question came up about having them join us at my event which is what prompted my post.
My opinion, based on how I know our guests, is that they would NOT like the event but don't know that yet...they've never attended something like this. If they were to go and not enjoy it, there's no recourse for them. Imagine going to a ballgame and wanting to leave after the 3rd inning, or going golfing and wanting to leave after 5 holes, or a concert and wanting leave after 4 songs. It would be conspicuously awkward for all parties. I'm not the leader of the event, but close to it and I could not politely separate myself from the group to attend to these friends/guests.
I really do think they would be totally fine not going and being solo for that day, just that it was suggested that it could be construed as rude to expressly not invite them.
Unless you think they are liable to embarrass you I don't see why you are making the decision for them. Are they not grown up enough to decide themselves if your event sounds like something they might enjoy? If they decide to go and don't enjoy it surely they are mature enough to deal with the results of their own decision, assuming you have explained what the event entails? It might surprise a lot of people I know to learn about some of the things I enjoy.
So roleplaying here...if they were to follow that up with "oooh, that sounds like fun, room for us?!"
"Sure, but why don't you drive separately in case it ends up being something you don't enjoy as much as we do. Nothing I hate more than being stuck somewhere with no way to leave if I am not enjoying myself". Of course, I am an introvert and there is nothing worse to me than being stuck at some event that I am miserable at. That would also mean I would never join you in the first place. LOL
I have had some people invite themselves to my home during a less than opportune time. Most of the time, they are doing me a "favor" so I have no choice but to accept. I tell them ahead of time that I will be gone most of the time they are here. For some reason, that's not a deterrent. Ha ha ha
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