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Err yes lol, I've had several friends do that because they are wondering if there is a good art community for me, and one friend worried there might be bears and worries about me.. as for nosy parkers I have no clue I don't work with people who pry into my financial situation. Who am I to decide the op is fibbing or not, take it as said and focus on deflecting issue
Thanks for sharing that people will in fact go to great lengths to know what's what and these people are your friends and had great concern for you. Regarding your not having to deal with nosy parkers, you can consider yourself VERY, VERY lucky because I am here to tell you it happens and will probably continue to happen.
Excellent post! Great way to keep private plans private in a friendly way. I agree, lots of folks close to retirement are curious as to what options their coworkers are taking.
I don't care for the standard "why do you ask" response. It comes off as belligerent IMO.
Yes, I totally agree. Great responses and very helpful, no all I have to do it practice the ones that closely related to my personality!
These strike me as being the types of questions that anyone who would like to retire early would ask themselves. When people dream about retirement they are trying to visualize what retirement might be like and how and when they could handle retirement financially. Hearing how you answer the same questions may help them to develop answers to their own retirement concerns. I think that’s why many ask the questions. They wouldn’t say that to you though.
When colleagues have told me their retirement plans over the years, my mind always immediately shifted to putting myself in their shoes and pondering whether those plans appealed to me personally as part of my own retirement plan. That was helpful. I retired at age 53.
If those co-workers are indifferent to your future well being, why would they care enough to be malicious? Sure, I imagine many of them might wish they could retire, too. Have you never wished you could have retired earlier yourself?
You missed the point. A few feel that way sure, and you can get a sense for those who do, but I work around people who are more concerned with being in the "know" about some one else's plans and their attitude, when they're not around that person, it not one of kindness, concern and full of " boy, I wish I could learn from them how they did it", quite the opposite. Witnessed it over and over again, first hand. Sorry, but you need to get your head out of that bag friend.....
Another one that I've used when boundaries were being crossed and the questioner won't get the point is: "That's kind of personal, don't you think?" with a laugh and a smile. That's not quite as blunt as "Nunya bidness" but heading in that direction.
Yeah, I would never say none of your business. This response it more my style, thanks again.
I am retiring from federal service in December and not a day goes by that one of my co-workers asks what I'm going to do, why am I retiring, etc. They JUST DO NOT GET IT.
I just tell them I've worked a total of 42 years, my husband is retired and STILL gets up with me to take me to work. I tell them we are BOTH finally retiring.
I'll be glad when I'm out of there and the work environment. They are some who are clearly jealous, some happy for me, etc.
That first day....oh I will be sooo happy!
You're getting outta here before me and I'm HAPPY that someone is getting away from the vultures. It's crazy isn't it. How all the sudden people who could have cared less about your life as long as you are working alone side them in the daily grind, are now living and breathing just to know what YOU are going to be doing with YOUR life when you retire. Ha! All the best to you and I hope you have a very happy and long life with your husband!!! Not much longer,,,,,,,,,YIPPEE for you!!!
This doesn't sound like prying to me. It sounds like people trying to be supportive. I suppose it depends on who's doing the asking; casual acquaintances/co-workers, or closer friends and relatives.
Pretty much casual acquaintances and co-workers. Those closer to me know everything and I gladly share with them because they are apart of my inner circle. Trust me its prying, only they do it in a sneaky way. Ha!
Yes!!! One person comes to my mind right away: Interested for nosy, competitive, jealousy-prone reasons vs actually being a concerned friend. This kind of person has no use for you unless they want to know something. And they're NEVER happy for your successes!
"Make sure everybody in your boat is rowing, and not drilling holes when you're not looking. Know your circle."
"Make sure everybody in your boat is rowing, and not drilling holes when you're not looking. Know your circle." Love this!!! Not going to give bullets to someone holding a gun to my head! Ha!
I wound up "retired" early (actually, it was disability, but I don't like to discuss my medical issues), and I get asked that a lot.
What are you going to do? Anything I please!
How can you afford it? We're planning to die young.
Oh my goodness, I LOVE your last response!! Classic, thanks for the laugh!!! Regarding questions about your medical issues, you would think people have enough sense NOT to ask questions they shouldn't but we live in a very different world now and you have to literally mark out the boundary lines for people now days. Sad.....
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