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Originally Posted by MinivanDriver
No. You told her something that, hopefully, will make her think.
Here's the question I have. Does this friend ever listen to you? Ever do anything for you? Ever been there for you?
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Let me start from the beginning of when she came back into my life so all the questions are answered or so I hope. Time event are not exact, I am trying to track the memories back.
I was still living with my parents, I want my own room since all the kids shared room and thus my friend started to contact me and we hung out. That was our first contact after a long separation. She was happy, successful, no drama yet. About 2 years passed she contacted me again with a new number. She told me she is pregnant and I was surprised because I wouldn't thought that she is this type of girl that would have a kid before marriage. The girl I remembered before we got separated was shy, innocent, quiet. She was driving her new car that she got for 4 months and we did some catch up including who the baby daddy was. Months passed on we didn't connect until I got a new text with a new number saying it was her. By that time she had given birth and more drama came into her life.
She lost the car in that short time frame because her baby daddy aka ex drove the car and got into an accident making it a total loss. Also, he took the baby and prohibited her from seeing her baby by living with another girl and that baby grow up during his infant year knowing that girl as his "mom." I tried to understand her life and supported her emotionally because she can't see her baby, lost her job, lost her car, depressed, got cheated on, etc. I got worried for her because she told me at one point in her life she want to kill herself and I don't want her to do that so I tried to be there as much as I can for her helping her get stronger while she fought her ways trying to get her baby back. I also asked her sister to watch her just in case she gone suicidal again. At the same time I have health issue of my own, trying to stay strong because I have auto immune disorder that make me weak. At home I feel toxic because everything at home annoyed me plus sharing room with sibling made it worst when I want peace and quiet and sis were always loud.
Friend need a job, I took her to a job agency that is 30 mins away. She got the job that is 1 hour commute from home. I was happy to see her got back up and focus on her life first while she was still trying to get her baby back. She asked everyone she knows friends or family to take her to work while she can save up to get another car. By this time her baby was 1 year old.
Because she knew I want to move out and she herself just got a new job, she asked me to be her roommate. I was thrilled because I will have my own room finally. We moved in together and I didn't thought of more drama ahead of us since I was over shadow by my new freedom from family.
Before we moved in we agreed no boy allowed or anyone allowed, pay rent on time. By this time, she got her baby back and asked her parents to babysit him while she work. The drama between her and ex gotten worst to court. When no one can pick her up, I pick her from work after my shift and I cannot drive at night but I managed anyway. I told her I can't be doing this, it take a toll on my health so she rented a car to go to work. She rented for 1 week but over used it for 3 weeks and oh boy the price of that rental. On top of that she has no rent money for the 4th month so I paid for it.
To make it worst, she got a scam call from so call police department saying they will arrest her if she don't pay $2,000 for something which I don't remember. She called me that night when I was very weak and almost got into car accident because I cannot see the road from over working myself but I never told her about this incident. When I told her I have no money she borrowed from her brother. She got home, told me the whole story and that was when I realize my friend is stupid lol. So no rent money for 5th month, on me again.
She met an old friend who happened to work at a car dealership and this friend can help her get a car with bad credit and no down payment so we went to the dealership and I waited in the car for 3 hours because it was crowded with people and no seats and I can't stand crowd. Hurry she got a car! And I thought everything will be good now. She finally got a car, her baby is back, got a job, promised to pay me back, what could be worst right? I was wrong.
She and ex started to reconcile while still fighting who will have the custody of the baby in court. Ex was and still is a dead beat loser in my eyes, no job, been in jail many times and she wanted to be with him because he is the father. She sneaked him in at night while I was asleep and when I found out I confronted her but she said he had no where to go. I started to secretly look for a new place. My health has gotten worst, in the hospital for 2 weeks.
Coming back home and he was still there. I don't felt comfortable and moved out into my new home this time I vowed not to have any roommate. I left her knowing she has many unresolved issues but still remain friend because we were friend since kid. I myself didn't know that I can pay rent alone, I pat myself on the back for that lolz.
Years passed and 1 year ago she contacted me again with new number. My heart has forgiven her and silly me got myself into the mess again. Nowadays, I don't work and drive anymore, I'm on disability. Beside my sisters who are driving me around, it is my friend who willing to take me places whenever she is free from work. So we did more catch up; she is better, going back to school, working, being the best mom she can be. I told her if it wasn't for her, I will never have the courage to moved out so I thanks her. The only venting and drama I have is about family and she listened. Until recently, for some reason I got fed up with her problems and started to get distance from her and this is how it's all ended.
Whew! Didn't know story was this long. I am not going to respond to anymore question because right now I am feeling very happy and want to let this end here.
Thank you all for reading and post your thought in here!
I am feeling hungry so gotta eat....