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For those saying who ever invites should pay.... So when you are talking with a friend/friends and they say "lets get some dinner tonight" or "want to grab a bite later?" You expect them to pay?
I'd only expect them to pay if they sent out invites or something more formal.
Same here. I've suggested get-togethers at bars or restaurants, but that doesn't mean I'm going to pay for everyone who shows up. It would be preposterous for them to expect that of me. If they want my company, they want it.
The two older kids that left after they finished their food probably learned that behavior somewhere , I would say the parents taught them that , that is okay to do . Parents please teach your kids no matter what age manners ....including never leaving the table without putting something on it monetarily wise . I do think that some of those same two kids 's friends would have said something to them . Why did the whole party not say something to them ? seems like their parents lacked teaching them manners .
I think it's a little awkward to have a "celebration" over the birth of your new daughter 1)at an expensive restaurant and 2)expect everyone to pay. You could have chosen a cheaper restaurant, and payed for everyone.
I was invited to a baby shower once at a restaurant, and everyone was told to pay their own bill. I thought that was rude. It's like inviting people to a party and then handing them a bill at the end. I think it's tacky.
Not excusing what these people did, but I wonder if the people there thought YOU were going to pick up the tab, and then scrambled to try and pay something towards the bill.
What we ALWAYS do. Split it 3 ways (there are usually 3 of us, and we never order things that cost equal). Over the amount of times we go out, it probably all evens itself out!
To me, nit picking over a bill ruins the whole meal and the whole experience.
No, it doesn't even itself out. The people who order more expensive meals or more expensive drinks will tend to always order more expensive meals, and the people who eat or drink light will tend to always do so. Paying a part of a friends more expensive meal time and time again isn't friendship, it's being a chump.
Back when I was married we used to dine out with two other couples and a single. One of the other couples was ALWAYS trying to split the check 4 ways, because we were 4 groups, instead of 7 ways, for each person. They just didn't want to pay their fair share.
I think it's a little awkward to have a "celebration" over the birth of your new daughter 1)at an expensive restaurant and 2)expect everyone to pay. You could have chosen a cheaper restaurant, and payed for everyone.
I was invited to a baby shower once at a restaurant, and everyone was told to pay their own bill. I thought that was rude. It's like inviting people to a party and then handing them a bill at the end. I think it's tacky.
Not excusing what these people did, but I wonder if the people there thought YOU were going to pick up the tab, and then scrambled to try and pay something towards the bill.
I had an office colleague's wife hold a "surprise party" at a New York City restaurant for her husband's 30th birthday, in January 1993. Of course everyone had to pay. I thought he was tacky then. Nothing between then and when we parted ways at the end of 2013 changed my mind. In fact it got worse.
I think it's a little awkward to have a "celebration" over the birth of your new daughter 1)at an expensive restaurant and 2)expect everyone to pay. You could have chosen a cheaper restaurant, and payed for everyone.
I was invited to a baby shower once at a restaurant, and everyone was told to pay their own bill. I thought that was rude. It's like inviting people to a party and then handing them a bill at the end. I think it's tacky.
Not excusing what these people did, but I wonder if the people there thought YOU were going to pick up the tab, and then scrambled to try and pay something towards the bill.
Seriously? A baby shower isn't a 'party', it's an opportunity for the attendees to contribute gifts to the 'mother-to-be', not mooch a restaurant meal. Who did YOU think should have paid for all of the meals?
Oh, and referencing your first paragraph, how often do you invite a group out and pay for everyone? Or is it just for those other people who invite friends out?
I think it's a little awkward to have a "celebration" over the birth of your new daughter 1)at an expensive restaurant and 2)expect everyone to pay. You could have chosen a cheaper restaurant, and payed for everyone.
I was invited to a baby shower once at a restaurant, and everyone was told to pay their own bill. I thought that was rude. It's like inviting people to a party and then handing them a bill at the end. I think it's tacky.
Not excusing what these people did, but I wonder if the people there thought YOU were going to pick up the tab, and then scrambled to try and pay something towards the bill.
OP already stated he did not plan this get-together nor choose the restaurant.
Seriously? A baby shower isn't a 'party', it's an opportunity for the attendees to contribute gifts to the 'mother-to-be', not mooch a restaurant meal. Who did YOU think should have paid for all of the meals?
Oh, and referencing your first paragraph, how often do you invite a group out and pay for everyone? Or is it just for those other people who invite friends out?
I disagree. A baby shower is no different than a 25th Anniversay wedding, or any other event held in a restaurant. No one would expect to have to pay for their meal, it should be stated on the invite if that's the case, but it is tacky. Guests already spent money on the gifts.I don't think s shower should be planned at a restaurant unless the host is paying. Otherwise you do what we did for my niece, have it at a hall (a gun club in our case) and have the food brought in, whether bought or homemade (we did homemade).
I disagree. A baby shower is no different than a 25th Anniversay wedding, or any other event held in a restaurant. No one would expect to have to pay for their meal, it should be stated on the invite if that's the case, but it is tacky. Guests already spent money on the gifts.I don't think s shower should be planned at a restaurant unless the host is paying. Otherwise you do what we did for my niece, have it at a hall (a gun club in our case) and have the food brought in, whether bought or homemade (we did homemade).
Right.....whomever is hosting the shower pays for it. If you cant afford to pay for it to be held in a restaurant, you should hold it in your home, not expect the guests to pay for it! Alternatively, you can hold it at a time of day where a meal is not expected and just have light refreshments/snacks.
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