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He's 75. She is trying to turn him against you and your sister and set herself up to receive his money when he dies. I would go to extra lengths to build a relationship with your dad (your sister should too), proving the girlfriend wrong about whatever thoughts she is putting in his head, while not saying anything bad about the girlfriend. If you say anything bad about her, he will defend her and it will be them against you. If you don't say anything bad about her, then hopefully he will start to get the idea that she's after his money and he'll put an end to the relationship.
OP time to grow up and put on your bog boy pants. Talk to your father. Could it have been handled better? Of course. But that doesn't mean you stop talking.
Rich dad used personal assistant to ask 34 year old OP and sister to take the stuff out of mansion, without giving them much notice, causing undue stress and inconvenience. OP is upset that father doesn't acknowledge that the situation could be handled better, and wants an apology. He wrote an email, but it has been ignored, although he has spoken to his father since then. Meanwhile, OP is afraid that the father's girlfriend (30 years younger) is turning father against his children, and is also hurt that father did not acknowledge the 11th anniversary of his mother's death by cancer as he has in the past.
My take:
Emails do sometimes go astray, are inadvertently erased or end up the spam filter. Why does everyone assume an email that is sent is automatically read?
Your 34 years old, and you still have so much stuff at your dad's place that it took you FIVE DAYS to move it all? Wow. Regardless of how much space he has, perhaps he got tired of being used as free storage.
I do think the whole thing with the personal assistant is weird, but then, some people consider their personal assistant an extension of themselves, and he may not have even thought twice that you might be offended at getting the message through a third party.
It sounds like if you want to have a relationship with your father, you are the one that is going to have to work at it, because your dad is "otherwise engaged" -- he has a new girlfriend, he's laying on Hawaiian beaches. Fair or unfair, that's the way it is. Your choice.
Thanks for the summary. My eyes glazed over 3 paragraphs in so it was hard to read. But I got stuck on he's 34 and has 9 SUV loads of stuff still at his parents?
“Let me tell you about the very rich. They are different from you and me. They possess and enjoy early, and it does something to them, makes them soft where we are hard, and cynical where we are trustful, in a way that, unless you were born rich, it is very difficult to understand. They think, deep in their hearts, that they are better than we are because we had to discover the compensations and refuges of life for ourselves. Even when they enter deep into our world or sink below us, they still think that they are better than we are. They are different. ”
“Let me tell you about the very rich. They are different from you and me. They possess and enjoy early, and it does something to them, makes them soft where we are hard, and cynical where we are trustful, in a way that, unless you were born rich, it is very difficult to understand. They think, deep in their hearts, that they are better than we are because we had to discover the compensations and refuges of life for ourselves. Even when they enter deep into our world or sink below us, they still think that they are better than we are. They are different. ”
“Let me tell you about the very rich. They are different from you and me. They possess and enjoy early, and it does something to them, makes them soft where we are hard, and cynical where we are trustful, in a way that, unless you were born rich, it is very difficult to understand. They think, deep in their hearts, that they are better than we are because we had to discover the compensations and refuges of life for ourselves. Even when they enter deep into our world or sink below us, they still think that they are better than we are. They are different. ”
F.Scott Fitzgerald
When you are born rich you never have to learn to survive, you never had to do things the hard way ... because you've always had "people for that". When you grow up surrounded by yes men who aren't brave enogh to point out your shortcomings and failures, you won't believe you have any. Your relationships are shallow because you can afford to discard anyone who disagrees with or challenges you. People become pawns, a means to an end.
Those who are rich because of hard work have a better chance of success in their relationships ... IF they don't begin to take others for granted.
Rich dad used personal assistant to ask 34 year old OP and sister to take the stuff out of mansion, without giving them much notice, causing undue stress and inconvenience. OP is upset that father doesn't acknowledge that the situation could be handled better, and wants an apology. He wrote an email, but it has been ignored, although he has spoken to his father since then. Meanwhile, OP is afraid that the father's girlfriend (30 years younger) is turning father against his children, and is also hurt that father did not acknowledge the 11th anniversary of his mother's death by cancer as he has in the past.
Thank you! It was like reading a book from Shakespeare....I made it about a third of the way through and was like become a grown up already. Good to know that it's just paragraph after paragraph of the same nonsense.
OP,
You're in your 30's. GROW UP! You should have moved your crap out YEARS ago. I moved out 21 and nothing I owned was left behind. If it was, my parents would have thrown it away because to them I didn't want it.
Your daddy doesn't pick you up at the airport? Cry me a river! My parents have never offered to pick me up nor have I ever asked. Why? Because I'm an adult. I've taken taxis and they know it. I survived.
Daddy doesn't send his hired help over to you to do things for you? And? What's your point? They don't work for you! They work for HIM! HE'S paying them!
You need to grow up and be an adult. You're in your 30's for crying out loud. Daddy isn't going to do what you want him to do. He's an adult and will do whatever he wants. You need to get over yourself.
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