Aunt demands me around, she is the same age as me? (father, guilty)
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My Aunt who is the same age as me (27) constantly bullies me into doing things for her. She demanded that I get her some pizza and pick up her baby from my Grandfather, when I didn't she snapped again and said "hand me my baby.." First I've been sick with the flu and a please from her would had been nice, but I find she always bosses me around when coming over. I did nothing to **** her off and when she acts interested or asks me about my life, she just ends up ignoring me when saying something..literally just sitting there blank faced. What would you do and how do I stand up to her?
I'd tell her to go pound sand. Once you put up with with that kind of thing, you are enabling that sort of behavior. Get your own dang pizza, and go pick up your own kid. What's she going to do if you stand up to her? Have a little self respect.
I'd tell her to go pound sand. Once you put up with with that kind of thing, you are enabling that sort of behavior. Get your own dang pizza, and go pick up your own kid. What's she going to do if you stand up to her? Have a little self respect.
Agree with this. People learn what you will put up with. She sounds like a bossy person who is used to others doing things for her. So stop. If you both routinely did those types of things for one another that would be totally different. Sounds like she is training you to be her servant.
Honestly that is what it sounds like (training you to be her servant) She does tend to be verbally and physically aggressive when snapping back. I'm moving 2 hours away after getting married so, I won't be putting up with her **** anymore. Choked from laughing at the idea of telling her to pound sand, I'd love to see her reaction after that. The last time I told her off was when she kept asking me to do crap, till I twisted my ankle going down the stairs. After that I lost my **** when she started getting snotty at me yelling in pain. I responded "Why keep calling my phone and asking me to do all this ****? I let the dog out 5 minutes ago and you want me to let him out of the cage when you could do that yourself." So for the past 10 minutes it was a screaming match of us cursing at each other, till I finally ignored her. The only time she doesn't mess with me or gets cowardly to throw demands is when I'm done up in makeup strangely. I'll admit that I need to stand up to her, but I don't feel like throwing claws should she come at me. She has done this before and I had to grab her arms and shove her into a doorknob to stop the fight. (I was 19 at the time) Being an adult and in front of a baby I don't want a physical confrontation.. :/ (she does have anger issues.)
Last edited by Starlightsfall; 11-01-2017 at 08:29 PM..
My Aunt who is the same age as me (27) constantly bullies me into doing things for her. She demanded that I get her some pizza and pick up her baby from my Grandfather, when I didn't she snapped again and said "hand me my baby.." First I've been sick with the flu and a please from her would had been nice, but I find she always bosses me around when coming over. I did nothing to **** her off and when she acts interested or asks me about my life, she just ends up ignoring me when saying something..literally just sitting there blank faced. What would you do and how do I stand up to her?
so why go over?
Just say no. you don't need to explain or apologize. Just NO.
If you act like a doormat, don't complain about getting stepped on.
My Aunt who is the same age as me (27) constantly bullies me into doing things for her. She demanded that I get her some pizza and pick up her baby from my Grandfather, when I didn't she snapped again and said "hand me my baby.." First I've been sick with the flu and a please from her would had been nice, but I find she always bosses me around when coming over. I did nothing to **** her off and when she acts interested or asks me about my life, she just ends up ignoring me when saying something..literally just sitting there blank faced. What would you do and how do I stand up to her?
The first time she did it, it was her fault. The second time she did it, it was your fault.
Simple. Just say no and look at her with a pleasant but blank look on your face. If she asks why, say "no reason, just no." Eventually she will get the message and stop asking. If you need some psychological backup, buy and read the book "When I say No I feel Guilty" by Manuel J. Smith. It's on Amazon. It teaches you how to stand up for yourself without getting into a fight, and helps you see through and thwart the games others play when they try to manipulate you.
I think you need to learn how to not be stepped on. Sounds like you are letting her do it. No need to yell or get crazy about saying no, just don't let people walk all over you. One can be a very nice and good person without allowing people to walk all over them.
How can someone be the same age as their aunt when you'd think aunt is one generation older than OP.
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