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i think you basically don't like your inlaws, and you're looking for any reason to justify your disdain.
You've shown disdain for the crappy little band, you've shown disdain for attending the event, and you're aggravated that apparently your wife wants you to attend the event. That's where all your angst is, but you need something to pin all your unhappiness on..so this little inclusion in the program is the iceberg to you.
As controlling, angry, over reacting and hateful as the OP is I have a theory that maybe the
wife knew all about the ad but was too scared to admit this to the OP.
Man....this forum must be filled with habitual line steppers. You don't buy ad space and put other people's names on it, like they are the ones who took out the ad space, without their consent, for anything.
I think a lot of people here are getting emotionally blinded by the topic matter and the OPs bad attitude or we've got a lot of boundary crossing types that see themselves in the MIL.
You have a horrible attitude, and are making a mountain out of a mole hill.
Tons of people attend events like this to offer support. Do you think parents want to go to band recitals, watch a tons of kids play sports, go to graduations, weddings and funerals?
As far as putting the ad in, really what harm is there?
I would be more concerned about your attitude posing future problems than your MIL.
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Too bad I already spent energy giving a thought out reply before I noticed this is a first time poster, which more often than not = troll.
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We all gotta start somewhere.
I should have clarified that first time poster with over the top story generally = troll. Usually when I read one of these hard to believe posts, the very next thing I look at is whether it's a first time poster. So many trolls get their jollies from yanking our chains.
That would be my concern that its a signal of worse things to come. By itself it would not be a huge deal to me but it could be the tip of an iceberg regarding her behavior. If it was me I would thank her for the kindness of placing the ad but let her know if she wants to do anything like this in the future where she wants to include your and your wife's name in something she needs to ask permission first.
YES!! BEWARE!!!
This could lead to her donating to a charity in your name.
No one should tolerate this.
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Yeah man, you're in the right and it is super weird. Seems passive aggressive. However, you need to calm down and not blow up over this. This is an easy, simple, direct conversation YOU should have with your MIL. It is as simple as asking her politely to not use your name without your permission. Asking her to call your wife or yourself before doing something like this should be standard operating procedure and the fact that she didn't seems intrusive and passive aggressive. Or maybe she is just clueless.
Yeah, I don't think this is quite right.
If she were signing you up publicly as a supporter of National Right to Life or Planned Parenthood and it was the opposite of the way you feel you have a perfectly solid objection to what she did. Nobody should have their name associated with a political position they object to without their permission.
This was best wishes for a holiday concert! How controversial is that? Do you really worry that someone's going to see the ad and thing, "What a jerk! He supports the singing of Christmas carols"?
I don't feel it is crossing a line or pushing boundaries. With the OP it is, but he is in the minority.
A huge percentage of people here say it wouldn't bother them at all, and I'm in that group.
So it is not some universal gaffe that the MIL did.
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I am a little surprised how few people here are capable of approaching this logically.
You don't speak for someone else, publically, using their name without their consent. Period.
Details about who, what, where, and when are irrelevant.
And I am not a "troll" -this is a true story.
Call me a "grump" or a "scrooge" all you want, I simply don't care for all the cheesy nonsense that goes along with the holidays, and those who fail to understand that are probably your typical sheep that fall for all the marketing and commercialism, and blindly celebrate xmas. Keep swiping those credit cards! As was said, these people have an emotional attachment to Christmas and just can't understand. What she did is contrary to my beliefs, so YES - the more I think about it the more I believe it is an issue. It will be handled accordingly and appropriately.
Thank you for your ridiculous, dorky insights, and thank you to half of you who failed to even understand my first post correctly
I don't feel it is crossing a line or pushing boundaries. With the OP it is, but he is in the minority.
A huge percentage of people here say it wouldn't bother them at all, and I'm in that group.
So it is not some universal gaffe that the MIL did.
You do realize the OP is the main character from a popular Dickens novel, right? It's just that the particular screen name was already taken.
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Yep, they're missing the point entirely.
