How can two siblings be so different? (females, males, member)
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I know of two siblings that are very different when it comes to their attitudes towards life and the success they have been able to achieve, despite having virtually the exact same upbringing.
They are just two years apart and the older one has a master's degree and is very highly motivated. The younger one barely finished high school and pretty much lives in the projects.
How common do you think this type of situation is? And is there any real explanation for it? Especially when they virtually had the same upbringing...
So you've never heard of cane and able?
There's nothing new under the sun.
Going through life I never saw any huge differences, just generally different people traits in kids. But now a friend has two that couldn't be more different. The older one decided what he wanted to do by the the time he was 5. Sport, college, degree type all picked out. Confident little know it all, bossy, thinks he's smart etc. Neither of his parents have gone or care if their kids go to college so where that came from is a mystery. The younger couldnt be more..what I think of as feral. Shy anxious has no idea of who or what he is. Ask him what he wants to be, he'll say xyz (what his brother wants to be). Plays the same sport although I've never seen him touch the ball, he mostly just cruises around the field. I can't imagine he enjoys it. I just can't see him being able to cope as an adult if he stays the same and I don't think his parents have been up to helping him. (They are great loving parents but a little passive in this)
Its like the older child got everything in the womb and the other child nothing.
My brother and I are opposites, and so are my kids. The "core" of my kids is the same, but so many differences' otherwise.
My brother and I, nothing the same.
OP, my "guess" is that they have traits of their parents and other ancestors. Aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc.
My children are very different from each other. My daughter is an optimistic person, and her brother is a glass half empty sort of person. She looks like my side of the family, and her brother looks like his dad. So in our case their personalities match the parent they look like.
Son number two, with a different father, looks purely like my side of the family, and he has the easy going personality of my side too. As I mentioned elsewhere, this son just had our first “ours” grandchild, and gramps and I can’t wait to see what her personality is like.
You think the fact that you refer to him as "her brother" and not "my son" like you do your other two has anything to do with it?
You think the fact that you refer to him as "her brother" and not "my son" like you do your other two has anything to do with it?
Perhaps you're reading more into it than was implied? My impression was that GA was using it as a descriptive, not disparagingly.
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