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Do you? I work with a woman who is leaving her present job. She is not someone I have any great attachment/affinity for at all. I have also heard she has had negative things to say about me and I have not said anything to her about this either way... she can just leave. Anyway, now there is someone who has decided to have a gathering for a goodbye party at her house and I really feel like I can't be bothered to not only attend but it is expected people bring food.
It will be held on a Sunday. I cherish my Sunday's free of anything. I like the person who is holding the party but don't feel I should go just because I like her and not the person leaving. The person having the party has asked me a couple of times to come and she is unaware of how I feel and what I know about this person leaving. I will tell her after she leaves the job, not interested in getting a big to-do about this.
There are many dependencies here but in general, I probably wouldn't go. No need to be mean or a jerk or say too much about not going though. Just something like "I'm unable to make it this time" should do.
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Do you? I work with a woman who is leaving her present job. She is not someone I have any great attachment/affinity for at all. I have also heard she has had negative things to say about me and I have not said anything to her about this either way... she can just leave. Anyway, now there is someone who has decided to have a gathering for a goodbye party at her house and I really feel like I can't be bothered to not only attend but it is expected people bring food.
It will be held on a Sunday. I cherish my Sunday's free of anything. I like the person who is holding the party but don't feel I should go just because I like her and not the person leaving. The person having the party has asked me a couple of times to come and she is unaware of how I feel and what I know about this person leaving. I will tell her after she leaves the job, not interested in getting a big to-do about this.
What do you do when this happens? Thanks
I'd pass since you don't like the person who the party is for. Just lie and say you have other plans.
I've skipped off site work events and people don't press me when I say I have other plans.
Pass, pass, pass. "I have another engagement or already have other plans". "Sundays are my day of peace and quiet." If you were not paid and therefore required to attend, it is your choice.
Yes, I do attend work related gatherings outside of work hours, but if you don't want to go, don't go. Just say "I'm sorry, I already have plans that day."
I would vote for going because of the person who is hosting. She is someone you work with and I assume you plan to continue to work at that place.
A couple hours out of your life will return much future goodwill with this person. If she was not the host and had not twice brought it up to you, I would not partake. But she is, so I would go. I value loyalty.
Yes, I do attend work related gatherings outside of work hours, but if you don't want to go, don't go. Just say "I'm sorry, I already have plans that day."
Not sure what the problem is.
This!
Personally, if I didn't like the person that the party is being hosted for, I would still go if I liked the other people attending. If I can't be bothered, then "Sorry, I already have plans" is a good option.
"I'm sorry but I already have another obligation. I wish you good luck in your next venture! Take Care!"
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