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Her sister's BF doesn't ring the doorbell. So I wondered if her BF did. I don't assume things. I ask about them.
Ok but most of us assume the norm. Especially when she is complaining about the normal not occurring,
Then you can bet she is probably part of the majority thus her boyfriend rings the doorbell. So your post(s) make no sense
well my sister lives with me so she doesn't have to knock. Her BF is not a resident, but yes it has been a couple times where I didn't know he was there sleep in her room and I thought I was home alone and yes I did walk around with nothing on as I thought I was alone... he left out of the garage and I called the police as I thought someone was in the house with me.
I have talked to her about that and swore each time it wouldn't happen again. I'm just tired of the foolishness.
Sorry, but it sounds like it's going to continue.
It's so odd that you and everyone you know knocks but your sister isn't on board with that. She may be one of those women who puts her man above everyone else. You may not be able to live together very peacefully if y'all can't compromise.
Ok but most of us assume the norm. Especially when she is complaining about the normal not occurring,
Then you can bet she is probably part of the majority. Your post(s) make no sense
You should spend more time on CD before you start talking about "norms" and "majority."
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joni, this is a mistake for two young sisters who are in/looking for relationships to buy a house together. I can see two elderly sisters doing that, but your life right now is in such a state of quick change - as is borne out by the fact that very quickly your sister has a live in boyfriend - that this is an unworkable situation.
This is not workable. This is your sister's home, too, and if it were hers alone she would certainly give her boyfriend access to the garage code.
I think you need to sell the home and move apart.
Did you have this conversation before you bought the house - no overnight guests, and no giving the garage code to a boyfriend?
It's so odd that you and everyone you know knocks but your sister isn't on board with that. She may be one of those women who puts her man above everyone else. You may not be able to live together very peacefully if y'all can't compromise.
I failed to mention that she did talk to him and gave him an illustration saying she doesn't do that when she visits anyone including his brother or his parents. She says he felt bad about it, but that's common sense to me.
It's so odd that you and everyone you know knocks but your sister isn't on board with that. She may be one of those women who puts her man above everyone else. You may not be able to live together very peacefully if y'all can't compromise.
joni, this is a mistake for two young sisters who are in/looking for relationships to buy a house together. I can see two elderly sisters doing that, but your life right now is in such a state of quick change - as is borne out by the fact that very quickly your sister has a live in boyfriend - that this is an unworkable situation.
This is not workable. This is your sister's home, too, and if it were hers alone she would certainly give her boyfriend access to the garage code.
I think you need to sell the home and move apart.
yes I was warned by a friend not to do that. you are completely correct.
You should spend more time on CD before you start talking about "norms" and "majority."
again, she is complaining about the norm not occuring. So it's a given her boyfriend rings the bell.
I don't need more time on CD so know to assume the opposite wouldn't make sense
But I agree it sounds as if it is going to continue as long as she allows it to.
He's a visitor acting as a resident yet not paying any rent to which, they could both use towards their house payment
And neither is her sister covering his butt financially. Just gotta type out some visitor rules and give it to the guy
No other way
I failed to mention that she did talk to him and gave him an illustration saying she doesn't do that when she visits anyone including his brother or his parents. She says he felt bad about it, but that's common sense to me.
He apparently feels too comfortable...
Right. Because he knows deep down that there is no penalty if he continues to do it. You could stand there and yell at him every time, but he'll just say sorry and keep doing it.
joni, this is a mistake for two young sisters who are in/looking for relationships to buy a house together. I can see two elderly sisters doing that, but your life right now is in such a state of quick change - as is borne out by the fact that very quickly your sister has a live in boyfriend - that this is an unworkable situation.
This is not workable. This is your sister's home, too, and if it were hers alone she would certainly give her boyfriend access to the garage code.
I think you need to sell the home and move apart.
Did you have this conversation before you bought the house - no overnight guests, and no giving the garage code to a boyfriend?
The agreement was after we get married that that person has to move out and continue paying for the mortgage for 1 year. That was never an issue before as we lived with our parents before moving out and never really had a reason to make those rules.
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