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Originally Posted by jonibananas
well I hope not! i'm changing the garage code today. I have also requested that she asks for $250 to cover for utilities and HOA for this month and next as he's staying 17 days straight.
I reasoned with my sister that nothing is free, and we pay to live there. It's like staying in a nice hotel for 17 days for free...
So have you lived there for several months prior to this month, where he stayed for 17 days free? Can you track an uptick in utility use?
I can see, that if there are costs of him being there, that you ask your sister to cover that cost.
Presumedly, the HOA fee hasn't risen because he is there.
But water and electricity probably have, by a small percentage, and it's reasonable to ask your sister to cover that.
But in the meantime, joni, I really think you should ready the house for the market. Can you do that without taking a huge financial hit?
told him when it happened never to do that again and to always use the doorbell or knock. I was calm and in a NON-Joking manner when I said it but he knows I meant what I said.
OK, well as you now know there is a lot of time between "find boyfriend" and "get married," so now is the time to have a new rules discussion.
I completely understand how uncomfortable it is to not know if some guy will be in your house, but for most every couple I know that has sex AND has roommates, the Significant Other becomes like another roommate. So at some point if he isn't going anywhere you will need to stop being surprised to find him there and instead be surprised when he ISN'T.
So have you lived there for several months prior to this month, where he stayed for 17 days free? Can you track an uptick in utility use?
I can see, that if there are costs of him being there, that you ask your sister to cover that cost.
Presumedly, the HOA fee hasn't risen because he is there.
But water and electricity probably have, by a small percentage, and it's reasonable to ask your sister to cover that.
But in the meantime, joni, I really think you should ready the house for the market. Can you do that without taking a huge financial hit?
not sure we have enough equity in it to do that, it's really a nice house but for us 2 only... I have my upstairs privacy and her bedroom is downstairs. Minus him, it's great.
He promised that he was looking for an apartment when they first started dating. I told my sister he's just saying that as it's been over a year and still not looking. If they do buy a home, it'll have to be in her name... SAD!
He promised that he was looking for an apartment when they first started dating. I told my sister he's just saying that as it's been over a year and still not looking. If they do buy a home, it'll have to be in her name... SAD!
My sister and I purchased a home together last year. Only I was dating at the time and I would usually visit my boyfriend at his place. My sister started dating shortly after we purchased the home. The guy she is dating is 35 and currently lives at home with his parents. He has been divorced for approximately 4 years and does work. He does spend most of his time sleeping at our place, which I do not like at all as he does not contribute to the household. Currently he is spending approximately 3 weeks sleeping at our house as his and my sister's job is on a shutdown. I asked my sister to please ask him to pay at least for the utilities and she agreed to ask, but initially she got upset that I would even ask her to do something like that.
Last night, my sister and I were eating dinner in the kitchen when our garage door opened. I got really scared and thought to call the police, but it was her boyfriend. I did not know he had our garage door code and he just walked into our kitchen like nothing happened. I told him never to do that again and to always ring the doorbell. That's common sense, but why would someone do that if they know that person is home?! It angers me so much as I have to control my temper with him in respect for my sister...
Please give advice on what you would do with someone who doesn't contribute and also doesn't present common sense. We are two women living in a home and I sure wouldn't do that to anyone.
Sounds like you should’ve just bought a house by yourself.
they both work, we all do. they work at the same place and their company is on a 2 week shutdown, but will reopen afterwards. Just that he doesn't have his own place to go to, but comes to me and my sister's home and sits and watches Hulu/Netflix ALL DAY.
Good to hear they will resume their jobs. Sorry they hang around the house all day. You all sound young, at that age we cycled like mad. Belonged to a gym. Hung out with friends. But the world isn't as connected anymore nowadays with everyone utlizing online features
they both work, we all do. they work at the same place and their company is on a 2 week shutdown, but will reopen afterwards. Just that he doesn't have his own place to go to, but comes to me and my sister's home and sits and watches Hulu/Netflix ALL DAY.
Wait a minute. What do you mean, "he doesn't have his own place to go to"? He wasn't homeless, when he got involved with your sister. Why can't he go "home" to where he was living, before your sister entered the picture--mom & dad's place?
Start walking around in your underwear around you sister and her boyfriend
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Originally Posted by jonibananas
haha!!! nice idea. I do that already upstairs. Maybe I can take it downstairs and act drunk lol
But seriously, if he walks right into your home without knocking it's only a matter of time before he comes upstairs. It must be galling that you have so little control in your own home. It may come down to kicking your sister out at some point.
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