Another "rude about food" thread (person, gatherings, adults)
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I would not keep inviting her. She is greedy and rude. If your extremely generous gesture of providing FREE meals isn't good enough for her, she should bring her own food.
I think it was very rude. You offer food at your own expense, and people know they can partake or not as they choose or bring their own food if what you offer isn't good enough for them. For someone who has never offered to contribute anything to practically demand a special order for herself and her spoiled kid is really over the top. She knows what the food will be (that she isn't paying for). If she doesn't want it, she can bring something she and the little prince/princess find acceptable.
So you take a turn at hosting a group, and they host you in return?
If I were invited to your party, I would be grateful for whatever you served. It sounds as though you do make some accommodations for someone’s picky kid.
You are right to draw the line at running a restaurant.
If someone asks you to provide something else, invite them to bring what they want.
OP won't allow anyone else to pay, so the other people never have a chance for a preference. I have this issue with a friend who always wants to be the hostess, and therefore always controls what is done/consumed.
I'd much prefer that she let me pay when it is my turn anyway, just on the principle that I don't like to mooch, but also so that I can make choices too.
As it stands, to ever have a preference I would come off as rude like the woman who is the subject of the OP.
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Originally Posted by jencam
OP won't allow anyone else to pay, so the other people never have a chance for a preference. I have this issue with a friend who always wants to be the hostess, and therefore always controls what is done/consumed.
I'd much prefer that she let me pay when it is my turn anyway, just on the principle that I don't like to mooch, but also so that I can make choices too.
As it stands, to ever have a preference I would come off as rude like the woman who is the subject of the OP.
Hmmm. So if you arrived at the gathering and brought a large tray of whatever you like, and contributed that, what would happen?
OP won't allow anyone else to pay, so the other people never have a chance for a preference. I have this issue with a friend who always wants to be the hostess, and therefore always controls what is done/consumed.
I'd much prefer that she let me pay when it is my turn anyway, just on the principle that I don't like to mooch, but also so that I can make choices too.
As it stands, to ever have a preference I would come off as rude like the woman who is the subject of the OP.
Uh, why don't you just invite people to your house/host a party yourself? Pretty hard to demand that someone who is generous enough to open their home AND provide free food also give you your little heart's desire of culinary choices. Either bring your own, don't go, or host your own shindig. Don't get the "my turn" to pay at someone else's house. If you are hosting, you don't charge guests for food. You might do a potluck in which case guests can bring whatever dish they want. But I don't have guests who use my house to put on their own parties. That is what their houses are for.
This seems like an easy fix. Tell her what you're serving and say if she'd like something else, she is free to bring her own food.
It sounds like your issues with her go beyond this food issue though.
If that is the case, you have three basic options:
- set clear boundaries with her, and then its on her to decide how she'll cope with those;
- have a discussion with her to iron out your differences;
- decide to exclude her from your invites.
Yes it’s incredibly rude! I can’t imagine ever having a guest tell me what food to serve at my party. If they want that type of food, host their own party.
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