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Well to back up the OP a little, my husband fully retired theee years ago. Fortunately he plays golf at least three days a week, does some work in the yard and on the house and helps a bit with grandchild care.
However when he is home and "relaxing" it means sitting in from of the TV, often playing something on his iPad at the same time. Drives me crazy as I have never been a TV watcher. I think it is our different personalities at clash here. I cannot stand daytime TV in particular but he comes from a family that always had the TV on all day.
I try to take the view that he is entitled to do what he likes, within reason. But then I observe our ninety year old neighbour out in the garden or working in his workshop and I start growling!
He's not doing NOTHING. Even if he's asleep his brain is busy. His mind may be rummaging happily around reliving the past. He might be concocting a novel. He could be making plans for a vacation or house renovation. He may find social interaction or games his phone gives access to intriguing now that he has time to spend on it. Who knows? Until you can see into his brain you can't claim to know how much or how little he is doing. The difference could be that in the past he was physically more active. Now he may be mentally more active. Its his time to do what he wants. Quit judging him. Who gave you the title of spare time police?
Yes. I don't understand being bored, even if I'm alone doing zilch, I am never bored - I am enjoying the quiet, thinking about things.
Some people also just get set in their ways and don't want to do much. My parents reached a point like that, they stopped maintaining their house and watched a lot of tv. They were enjoying doing nothing but they had responsibilities they were ignoring. They would not let me help, took it as an insult. They were not that old when this happened, they just stopped doing anything they didn't consider fun, like a couple of spoiled teenagers.
OP isn't working. She is a middle aged adult, living in a room in her parents house. That's why she knows so well what her retired parents do all day.
So is the op home all day doing nothing also? Or is the op doing a different kind of nothing
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