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First im upset because their excuse for cancelling was rediculous. They should have considered that the baby has problem before they agreed on a trip. Not a month later after I did all the work. They went on the same trip becore so they know how the baby tolerated it. Second, they have another grandson that they can spend time if they go on a trip w since they dont spend alot of time with my son. We dont live close to them not like the other frabdaib that lives with them. Third, they go on this trip every year and all of a sudden they decline my husbands invitation to go just because another baby cant go. I think most people will be upset in this situation.
Again, YOUR expectation show in your post. At the very least this is a behavior for trouble and hard feelings with your in-laws and in time your husband.
Go ahead and get upset but it's you that will suffer............
You understandably had your feelings hurt. That's rotten. But don't be upset with your husband. It is some weird dynamic you will never understand between sister in law & her mother. That's on them.
Just don't get sucked into making any plans for them in the future. Instead go do something fun with your husband & son.
By the way. Where are your parents? Your kid has another set of grandparents. Make sure your kid gets "grandparent time and attention" from that direction.
By the way. Where are your parents? Your kid has another set of grandparents. Make sure your kid gets "grandparent time and attention" from that direction.
What does that have to do with this thread and what makes you think she's not?
First im upset because their excuse for cancelling was rediculous. They should have considered that the baby has problem before they agreed on a trip. Not a month later after I did all the work. They went on the same trip becore so they know how the baby tolerated it. Second, they have another grandson that they can spend time if they go on a trip w since they dont spend alot of time with my son. We dont live close to them not like the other frabdaib that lives with them. Third, they go on this trip every year and all of a sudden they decline my husbands invitation to go just because another baby cant go. I think most people will be upset in this situation.
I think you are absolutely correct and also have every right to be upset.
I hope Im wrong but I see that my PIL favors their other grandchild over my son. One time when we were visting at their house, my husband and I decided to spend the night there with our son. We needed something for my son so we were gonna go out to but it. My MIL said just leave our son with her and she will watch him. Before we even left the house, we heard a loud bang. It was my son. He fell and hit his head. My MIL who supposed to be watching my sone left to go upstairs to put her other grandson to sleep. She left my son to my SIL. Why my SIL cant put her own son to sleep and let my MIL watch my son? My husband was upset but knowing him he didnt say nothing to them.
The bolded is the issue here, but you're just going to have go let it go.
Take care of your family and let your relatives do what they're going to do. With two young cousins in this family and your feelings of jealousy, warranted or not, you're looking at years of drama and recriminations unless you can get on top of your feelings.
About the trip, did you lose deposits, or is it just a matter of cancelling reservations? Can you and your husband and baby go on the trip anyway? Might be nice for the 3 of you to get away.
Also, I'll add that when my daughter was 1.5 years old, she was terrible to travel with. She hated the car seat but wouldn't fall asleep. It was no fun traveling with her until she was about 4.
If it hasn't already been mentioned then pick something where the other grandchild could come that is close by.
I have mentioned IRL that traveling with children is impossible these days due to it taking 2x the amount of time to travel than 20 years ago for the same distance. Plus you have United Airlines that makes you put toddlers on your lap so you can get a blood clot in your leg and die. Or let the kid's puppy die in the overhead compartment. Or drag your grandfather off the plane because he didn't want to sell his seat because they were overbooked. Now grandpa is dead and your child is sad.
Can the sister's family fly with their kid? I guess at this point plane tickets would be pretty expensive.
When you were making plans did the sister mention her kid not being able to tolerate long drives?
IMO, here's the problem. These people did not have enough sense to recognize the difference between a 6 month old and a 18 month old when they originally asked her to plan a trip.
Did I miss how long this drive will take? Some think 30 minutes in the car is too long, others drive 2 hours across town to go to a farmers market.
The trip is off. The op has a right to be upset. But now she sees what she is dealing with in terms of responsibility and family.
She's probably right that her child will always take a back seat to the daughter's. That life. My kids gleefully opened their $3 plastic bowling set their grandma got them for Christmas while watching the daughter's
kid open her $300 doll. We never said a word.
Like my momma said all the time, "G-d gave you relatives so you would appreciate your friends".
She's probably right that her child will always take a back seat to the daughter's. That life. My kids gleefully opened their $3 plastic bowling set their grandma got them for Christmas while watching the daughter's
kid open her $300 doll. We never said a word.
Like my momma said all the time, "G-d gave you relatives so you would appreciate your friends".
We had something similar happen in Hubby's family. The daughter had thousands and thousands of dollars worth of free child care over the years and we had none. The daughter's son had elaborate, expensive birthday and Christmas gifts and fully paid vacations with grandma & grandpa. Hubby's two children received very few, very inexpensive gifts (picture dollar store trinkets and a coloring book when their other grandchild got a $300 bicycle or computer or another large ticket gift plus smaller gifts, too).
We really tried to keep this information from our children and were pretty successful in doing that. Our children still loved their grandparents very much.
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