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I understand your feeling toward your friend. Instead of encouraging your job search, she applied for the job herself. OUCH!!!
Two things to consider though: She has office experience and you don't. And since you will soon have your BA degree, the HR manager may feel you wouldn't stay in the job very long. What were your career goals when you chose your major? Probably not to do office work.
ps. From now on, throughout your working life, don't tell friends and especially coworkers about any job searches you pursue. It's dog eat dog out there! Good Luck
i think you've handled this with class, panache and a dash of elan..... good on you!!!! and just think how proud your mom is that you turned out so well mannered!!!! good luck
The job was not 'offered' to you though. You seem to be skipping over that important point. A person in the office encouraged you to apply and told your mother to have you apply. But no job offer was made to you.
It is sad and angering, though, that having told your friend about the opening that your friend went ahead and applied for a job that you wanted.
I meant to put that in quotations, those were my other friend's words, not mine. I was rushing when I typed this.
Basically it's an office clerical work position. A woman my mother worked with at one point, called my mom telling her to encourage me to apply. So of course I did. My friend and I were talking, and I excitedly told her the good news. She asked me if any other positions were open, and I told her to check. She did and ended up applying for the same position as me. She claims she had already automatically applied because her resume is uploaded to the site (indeed.)The HR manager at the office emailed her and told her to fax her application. I hand delivered mine to the woman interviewing for the position (my mom's coworker.)
Now for a little background, I will have my Bachelor's in psychology next year, I'm not working at the moment. My friend has an Associate's in social work. My work experience is mainly retail, while my friend has office experience. She works as a server and has a part time job at city hall in my town. Now here's where the "issue" comes in. My friend in question just got a call back from the office, I haven't yet (given my lack of experience, I probably won't.) The HR manager is the one who grades the applications and decides who makes the cut for the testing/interviewing process. My mother's old coworker is just interviewing the ones the HR manager decides to pass. I'm feeling a little discouraged but I'm hoping a better opportunity will come along.
Another friend and I were talking about the situation. He thinks she has just as much of a right to apply as I do. I agreed with him. But another friend of mine thinks it was kind of "snaky" of her to apply for the same position and it would be messed up if she got the job that was "offered" to me. Like I said, I'd be disappointed, and there might be some awkwardness between us if she does get the job. I don't know, I'm feeling a lot of mixed emotions. I wished her luck, but I still can't help but feel a little disappointed. I don't think she's being "malicious" otherwise she wouldn't be telling me anything. That's what I'd like to think anyway.
How would you all feel?
It doesn’t sound like she intentionally stole your job opportunity away, but you’ll know in the future to keep certain things to yourself.
This is all what it boils down to. Keeping my trap shut lol.
I’m sorry to say, but sometimes friends unintentionally steal lots of things. Like if you tell them about your new crush who they hadn’t really noticed before and then they decide to check him out.
Job should go to whoevers most qualified for the position. Friend or not, both of you are looking to get ahead just like very other citizen
Other factors than just qualifications are weighed when hiring for jobs. And sometimes there is not a 'most' qualified person who applies - there can be dozens who apply who have good qualifications for a job.
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