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isn’t it kind of rude to just tell someone to “go home” lol
No, why would you think that's rude? Especially if a person has nothing better to do than 'hang' when you do. I think it's rude not to call or txt before I visit someone. Everyone's got a mobile these days, so there's no excuse.
What if you were intending to garden? Or take the dog for a walk? Maybe I was intending to meditate or finish a book. Sometimes I'm grumpy/irritable due to pain & lack of sleep. Sometimes I'm just not in the mood to entertain an acquaintance (especially not the types like Mighty Queens 'friend' who decide to latch on, who are more often than not quite draining to be around)
My mates txt or call first. (I really don't like unexpected knocks on my door) And before I visit anyone, I txt or call & ask what they're doing & if they'd like to hang out. Why? Because it's the respectful & polite thing to do.
As for your 'friend' from social media; you don't really know her. She could be a guy or an obese middle-aged mental patient with nothing better to do. You just don't know.
I've made quite a few 'good friends' on the internet over the years. Some you think you've really clicked. You look forward to their e-mails. Then somethings said & they just drop off. It happens.
It's disappointing, not because I've lost a friend but because they weren't who I thought they were.
You sound young Jenny. This is just a part of life, friends come & go. Real friends will always stay in contact. Just go about your business, pursue your interests & you'll make new friends.
Chin up & let it go. Good luck.
jenny: I re-read your first post, and I am not sure what VSCO is. What was the subject of the photos put up by your online friend?
it’s a photography app. it’s kinda like keeping an online portfolio so the pics are usually cool high tech photos of aesthetically pleasing views/subjects etc.
No, why would you think that's rude? Especially if a person has nothing better to do than 'hang' when you do. I think it's rude not to call or txt before I visit someone. Everyone's got a mobile these days, so there's no excuse.
What if you were intending to garden? Or take the dog for a walk? Maybe I was intending to meditate or finish a book. Sometimes I'm grumpy/irritable due to pain & lack of sleep. Sometimes I'm just not in the mood to entertain an acquaintance (especially not the types like Mighty Queens 'friend' who decide to latch on, who are more often than not quite draining to be around)
My mates txt or call first. (I really don't like unexpected knocks on my door) And before I visit anyone, I txt or call & ask what they're doing & if they'd like to hang out. Why? Because it's the respectful & polite thing to do.
As for your 'friend' from social media; you don't really know her. She could be a guy or an obese middle-aged mental patient with nothing better to do. You just don't know.
I've made quite a few 'good friends' on the internet over the years. Some you think you've really clicked. You look forward to their e-mails. Then somethings said & they just drop off. It happens.
It's disappointing, not because I've lost a friend but because they weren't who I thought they were.
You sound young Jenny. This is just a part of life, friends come & go. Real friends will always stay in contact. Just go about your business, pursue your interests & you'll make new friends.
Chin up & let it go. Good luck.
i think it’s rude because the person who posted that basically said she kicks her friend out of her house when she’s had enough. like from what she described, i think it’s just insensitive because that other lady obviously likes her a lot and wants to hang out. it’s not like she’s being annoying on purpose. from what I can understand anyway .
then again to each their own
This online friend sounds like a creepy old man playing around. Have you OP thought of that? I think you need to get out more and meet real world people.
She’s not catfishing me lol trust me if she was I’d get a vibe but she isn’t you can just tell
it’s a photography app. it’s kinda like keeping an online portfolio so the pics are usually cool high tech photos of aesthetically pleasing views/subjects etc.
Thanks.
I know it can be really tough to do what you KNOW you should do, especially when you feel things so intensely. Some of us are just wired that way.
Have you tried journaling about this? Whether handwritten or online somewhere, spilling it all onto paper can help drain you of these unpleasant feelings and also give you a sense of perspective.
i think it’s rude because the person who posted that basically said she kicks her friend out of her house when she’s had enough. like from what she described, i think it’s just insensitive because that other lady obviously likes her a lot and wants to hang out. it’s not like she’s being annoying on purpose. from what I can understand anyway .
then again to each their own
But the point is that the woman who takes up MQ's time is not her friend, she's a neighbor who can't take a hint. MQ is not obligated to be held hostage in her home by someone she doesn't want to spend time with when she has other things to do. That you can't see that there are real boundary issues here is going to be a problem in your relationships.
op, it would be wise to step back from the technology and cultivate your real life. You're asking online strangers about what to do with an online stranger. Online relationships are not completely real until they are validated by physical reality.
This shouldn't be so important to you. Here are some steps:
1. Step back from the technology. No online discussion boards. No social networking.
2. In the inevitable silence that follows, consider: What is missing from my real life? What am i avoiding?
3. Consider the problems you're dealing with or avoiding in your real life. What can you change for the better?
4. Change
5. Turn your focus outwards to see how you can help the strangers.
She’s not catfishing me lol trust me if she was I’d get a vibe but she isn’t you can just tell
skepticism can be healthy
listen to the voices of experience in this thread
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