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Old 07-21-2018, 01:43 PM
 
Location: Rochester, WA
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You have expectations that are not healthy or reasonable to expect out of any casual friend.

She has the right to hold her phone and be online and be focused on other things besides you.

If you keep acting like this, you will force a choice you really won't like.
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Old 07-21-2018, 01:45 PM
 
Location: on the wind
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and i can't tell my mom because if i do i can kiss my phone and laptop goodbye lol gonna be livin' like it's 1978
Maybe that's not such a bad thing. You are being obsessive. She has cut you off without being mean to you. Can't be any clearer than that. YOU are making yourself miserable, not her.
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Old 07-21-2018, 01:55 PM
 
Location: San Jose, CA
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She has told you ... without words. Her lack of communication is sending a message that she's just not that into you.
this comment made me really sad i can't even describe
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Old 07-21-2018, 02:09 PM
 
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You are suffering a break with reality. This is someone you have never met. An online friend, who has other online friends, and you are jealous and possessive of a virtual stranger. This is not about her, this is about your hunger for her attention.

I suggest you ask your parents to set you up with a therapist. I promise, once you come back to the real world and your 3-dimensional life, you will feel much better.
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Old 07-21-2018, 02:13 PM
 
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this comment made me really sad i can't even describe

I'm sorry it made you really sad, but it's the reality of the situation. There's no point in sugar coating it. You need to hear it bluntly.
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Old 07-21-2018, 02:28 PM
 
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One of the best solutions would be to work on developing more relationships in real life!
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Old 07-21-2018, 02:40 PM
 
Location: San Jose, CA
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You are suffering a break with reality. This is someone you have never met. An online friend, who has other online friends, and you are jealous and possessive of a virtual stranger. This is not about her, this is about your hunger for her attention.

I suggest you ask your parents to set you up with a therapist. I promise, once you come back to the real world and your 3-dimensional life, you will feel much better.
she actually doesn't have any other online friends it's just me which makes it worse
she isn't a stranger tho and i'm not living a 3 dimensional life i just enjoy talking to her. it makes me happy. it's not like i don't have friends but she means a lot to me right now. i don't think i need therapy if i were to ask my parents they'd ask me why i want to and then i'd have to get into everything and it's too uncomfortable, they don't really understand me much. especially my mom
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Old 07-21-2018, 02:46 PM
 
Location: San Jose, CA
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One of the best solutions would be to work on developing more relationships in real life!
i don't understand this expression. people use it all the time like it's not like talking to someone online is "fake" i just can't be near them physically. but our souls connect and that's what matters i actually don't have any other online friends either just her
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Old 07-21-2018, 02:49 PM
 
Location: Phoenix, Arizona
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i don't understand this expression. people use it all the time like it's not like talking to someone online is "fake" i just can't be near them physically. but our souls connect and that's what matters i actually don't have any other online friends either just her
Your souls aren't connecting though. She is trying to sever that connection. She doesn't feel the same way you do. She has shown you that by not talking to you. And you honestly don't know how many friends she has.

"Real life friends" are those who can give you a reciprocal relationship that is good for both of you. You are being too needy and clingy and asking too much of this person you don't know. You need to back off.
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Old 07-21-2018, 02:49 PM
 
Location: San Jose, CA
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and now my earbuds just broke down so my one escape (music) is gone i think this world hates me idk what i'm even doing
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