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I lived half an hour from the airport, and was happy to pick up and drop off visitors. But some discovered they could save money by flying into a different airport, which was 2.5 hours away, and they expected me to drive a total of 10 hours to fetch them. I sent them a bus schedule and didn't invite them again.
But the OP has agreed. Use the roommate's car and let her pay for gas.
I lived half an hour from the airport, and was happy to pick up and drop off visitors. But some discovered they could save money by flying into a different airport, which was 2.5 hours away, and they expected me to drive a total of 10 hours to fetch them. I sent them a bus schedule and didn't invite them again.
But the OP has agreed. Use the roommate's car and let her pay for gas.
My sister and her fiance have done something similar with our parents. Mom and Dad,who are in their 80s, live about 30 minutes from their city's airport and generally don't mind driving people to that airport. Once my sister booked a 5:30 am flight from a city 1+ hour away and expected our parents to drive them. I let her have it. There's a favor, and then there's a FAVOR.
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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I think it is those people who don't have friends. And now we know why.
Really? You had to go THERE? I have friends and if I ask for a favor like that I OFFER to kick in for gas or buy them beer afterward for their trouble. Typically they also offer something for my trouble or offer to return the favor at a later date. OP is providing a premium service, the roommate should offer something for the OPs labor or let OP use her car so he don’t have to worry about gas money.
Really? You had to go THERE? I have friends and if I ask for a favor like that I OFFER to kick in for gas or buy them beer afterward for their trouble. Typically they also offer something for my trouble or offer to return the favor at a later date. OP is providing a premium service, the roommate should offer something for the OPs labor or let OP use her car so he don’t have to worry about gas money.
Really? You had to go THERE? I have friends and if I ask for a favor like that I OFFER to kick in for gas or buy them beer afterward for their trouble. Typically they also offer something for my trouble or offer to return the favor at a later date. OP is providing a premium service, the roommate should offer something for the OPs labor or let OP use her car so he don’t have to worry about gas money.
Some folks love being 'helpful' to one and all primarily because it makes them feel good about themselves. They could be being used and taken full advantage of and yet not see it because the ego boost of 'yay, I pleased someone' is THAT fulfilling. This sort of person never seems to notice that when they need something done the calls aren't returned.
Some needy folks are just eternal people pleasers, god bless 'em. LOL.
I lived half an hour from the airport, and was happy to pick up and drop off visitors. But some discovered they could save money by flying into a different airport, which was 2.5 hours away, and they expected me to drive a total of 10 hours to fetch them. I sent them a bus schedule and didn't invite them again.
But the OP has agreed. Use the roommate's car and let her pay for gas.
OK, we have three votes so far, for this suggestion. But it would be helpful for future reference, if the OP looked into the availability of shuttle services, so she could offer that information, the next time the roomie made the request. Well, and for that matter, there's always Uber, isn't there?
OP is providing a service that is at a premium to his roommate. I don’t think it is out of bounds for him to ask for gas money as well as time compensation if he is willing to provide that service. Say the trip round costs $75-100 via Lyft or shuttle think he is not out of bounds to ask for $30-40 for his trouble.
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Really? You had to go THERE? I have friends and if I ask for a favor like that I OFFER to kick in for gas or buy them beer afterward for their trouble. Typically they also offer something for my trouble or offer to return the favor at a later date. OP is providing a premium service, the roommate should offer something for the OPs labor or let OP use her car so he don’t have to worry about gas money.
OK, we have three votes so far, for this suggestion. But it would be helpful for future reference, if the OP looked into the availability of shuttle services, so she could offer that information, the next time the roomie made the request. Well, and for that matter, there's always Uber, isn't there?
Anyone who thinks it’s a good idea to use someone else’s car except in a dire emergency hasn’t had a friend or family member have an accident in said car. Back when I was a teenager, my dad allowed his 40 year old sister to use his car while she was visiting from out of state and she promptly got into a fender bender. She wanted him to tell his insurance he was driving so her insurance wouldn’t go up and he laughingly told her, “Uh no, this was your accident, you need to call your insurance, arrange the repairs and pony up the $500 deductible.” She was angry he forced her to do the right thing and there was bad blood between them for a couple of years afterwards. I would NEVER ask to use a roommates car.
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That's two completely different answers.
So?
Okay. From my point, the damn roommate should have offered something for his trouble, but I ALSO don’t think it is out of bounds for the OP to ask for some compensation since he is providing a premium service. There, one answer. You happy now?!
Anyone who thinks it’s a good idea to use someone else’s car except in a dire emergency hasn’t had a friend or family member have an accident in said car. Back when I was a teenager, my dad allowed his 40 year old sister to use his car while she was visiting from out of state and she promptly got into a fender bender. She wanted him to tell his insurance he was driving so her insurance wouldn’t go up and he laughingly told her, “Uh no, this was your accident, you need to call your insurance, arrange the repairs and pony up the $500 deductible.” She was angry he forced her to do the right thing and there was bad blood between them for a couple of years afterwards. I would NEVER ask to use a roommates car.
Your dad's insurance is responsible.
Car insurance follows the car.
I do not think your aunt's insurance would have paid for anything.
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that’s what good friends do. 
