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Now like I said she read my message the first time and responded and said we should get together. She actually wrote 2 messages that looked nearly identical. And then I responded and talked a little about the family tree on ancestry.
Right after that like the next day she liked my post and turned off her active status and it shows that she didn’t read my message. So I’m just trying to connect the dots. The timing was weird.
So recently I sent another message about a get together and it shows unread.
Well, if it happened back in May, then my theory about the scam messages probably doesn't apply. What about my other suggestions? A facebook event or a family group? Do you have any interest in doing either of those things? I think it's worth a try, considering how much you'd like to get together with her.
Also, what about the phone number? You didn't answer me on that part - how is your mom going to call her if you don't even have her number? I'm confused.
Just trying to be helpful with suggestions for you.
Well, if it happened back in May, then my theory about the scam messages probably doesn't apply. What about my other suggestions? A facebook event or a family group? Do you have any interest in doing either of those things? I think it's worth a try, considering how much you'd like to get together with her.
Also, what about the phone number? You didn't answer me on that part - how is your mom going to call her if you don't even have her number? I'm confused.
Just trying to be helpful with suggestions for you.
I can try an event. Possibly a group, but the group wouldn’t be very big for this side of the family. Just my family and a couple other cousins. It would be 7 people or so. Maybe I can find out if the other cousins are on fb.
As far as the number my mom says she has the number of the cousin’s uncle, on her other side of her family. Hasn’t talked to them either in 30 years lol, so it will be interesting to see if they give it to us. But the story is my cousins family feuded with their uncle and his family. Nothing to do with us. But I noticed that overtime their mom slowly started to want to see less people and less came overtime to the holidays. We were the last outside their immediate family.
I can try an event. Possibly a group, but the group wouldn’t be very big for this side of the family. Just my family and a couple other cousins. It would be 7 people or so. Maybe I can find out if the other cousins are on fb.
As far as the number my mom says she has the number of the cousin’s uncle, on her other side of her family. Hasn’t talked to them either in 30 years lol, so it will be interesting to see if they give it to us. But the story is my cousins family feuded with their uncle and his family. Nothing to do with us. But I noticed that overtime their mom slowly started to want to see less people and less came overtime to the holidays. We were the last outside their immediate family.
I really can't believe you don't understand how your insistence on contacting this woman is inappropriate.
She also modified her online activity once you began pressing for a reunion. Now you are escalating the situation, talking about digging up a phone number from 30 years ago and rustling up what may be decades-old conflicts by forcing her to help you satisfy your OCD-driven desire to complete this side of your family tree.
I don’t understand how it’s inappropriate. She comments on my posts. Others have said I could still invite her.
Commented. Didn't you just say upthread that she went no contact in May? You haven't heard from her in 5 months. That's a pretty big sign that contacting her more is not what she wants.
She also modified her online activity once you began pressing for a reunion. Now you are escalating the situation, talking about digging up a phone number from 30 years ago and rustling up what may be decades-old conflicts by forcing her to help you satisfy your OCD-driven desire to complete this side of your family tree.
Does that make the inappropriateness any clearer?
This has gone way beyond, "Can you take a hint?"
She isn’t part of the reunion cus she’s on another side. My mom has to call her uncle because she lost her number. Her uncle has nothing to do with us. That’s her other family. He’s not in my bloodline.
She isn’t part of the reunion cus she’s on another side. My mom has to call her uncle because she lost her number. Her uncle has nothing to do with us. That’s her other family. He’s not in my bloodline.
Those details are beside the point.
Are you still not able to see what is inappropriate about your approach to this situation?
I know that it’s not good to be obsessed but I own what I am. I sent 2 messages unread. What’s the harm?
Others have said I can still send an invite?
I'm done. Good luck to you.
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