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Alright... So I want some of your opinion's on this...
Each week I've been meeting with a mentor from my Church.. And he gives me tips on how to better my relationships. He knows that my cousin didn't read or respond to my messages. What he wants me to do is send her another message, but make it into a heartfelt letter and explain to her how I feel. And he wants me to write that I forgive her no matter what. Do you think this is a good idea if I'm sincere? Or does it come across as too much?
Absolutely not.
He might have a different take if he had read the more than 10 threads you've started here in the last couple of weeks and some of the things you have said.
I know how this Christian forgiveness thing works but for you to tell her that you forgive her would be not only highly manipulative, but frankly, unbelievably ARROGANT.
Let's face it, you don't forgive her!
Nor is it your place to "forgive her" for – your hurt feelings!
Turn to another place in the bible: "Physician, heal thyself." Don't be literal. That isn't calling you a doctor.
Does anyone think that the OP’s difficulty in making friends is directly related to his obsession with family members? I think he believes that family can be forced to accept him. After all, “family”.
I know that I'm not a bad person. Many have made me out to be. I only messaged her one time and she responded and then I re responded. Then recently asked her about getting together with the new family. That is IT. I have talked about her on here just for getting advice and seeing what answer is the best for me. But I don't like how people have claimed I have harassed her. I just don't read her ver well because she says one thing then does another. She shouldn't be posting sentimental comments on my sentimental posts about the past if she does not mean it. That is disingenuous. Now, right now I'm in an uphill battle. I have posted about the new family on FB and have gotten no reactions from her. But I know that she saw my ''story'' because you can see who views your story. This is not someone I have only met one time folks. This is someone we spent every holidays together with. For over 50 years. Please stop trying to make me out to be some creep.
I know that I'm not a bad person. Many have made me out to be.
Please stop trying to make me out to be some creep.
Wanting to be in close contact with your family is not the problem!!!!!
Your incessant and circular posts here are troubling because you are posting an abnormal number of times about the same subject. You are clearly exhibiting extreme OCD symptoms here on this forum, and I am going to challenge the other posters here to STOP REPLYING to your posts.
You've already started MULTIPLE THREADS ABOUT THE SAME TOPIC.
YOU ARE OUT OF CONTROL AND YOU NEED TO BACK OFF FROM POSTING ABOUT THIS.
We aren't saying you are a bad person. But you are obviously at the mercy of your disorder, and our continued replies to you are making it worse.
I am not going to feed into your obsession any more. YOU NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP.
Well... I was scrolling through her timeline just to see if I can sense anything that's going on and I stumbled across my father and her interacting on FB about a year ago. She said that she would like try to see if we could reconnect, said we could play cards. And wrote a 2nd comment that it's been too long, we need to see each other... And my dad responded back and wrote tell me when and where and we'll be there. But then the conversation ended. That is what he is talking about when he said that she never responded.
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