Do you call out older relatives if they say something offensive? (children, cousins)
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Being "solidly" a Baby Boomer has little to do with it. He's a jerk.
And a jerk like that is not going to change. In fact, he'll probably dig in if confronted.
If it makes you feel better to say something, do it. Just don't expect miracles.
This is what I was thinking. Aren't the Baby Boomers the generation that invented Political Correctness? lol. I guess it depends where they're from. PC arrived late to some parts of the country.
Good for you. However, I have mainly found calling such people out though is largely unproductive. I simply limit my time with them and the venues I visit with them. I'm sure there are some relatives that wonder why I have withdrawn so much from the relationships, but that's their problem.
Look, the way I see it, insensitive behavior past a certain age is a reflection on character. I choose to associate with people of solid character. If you don't know how to be kind and respectful of others, I'm not going to have much use for you. There are too many truly good people in my life to waste time with people who were ok letting their moral development stall out in high school.
At gatherings (holidays, reunions. etc) ignorant things are sometimes said. I just ignore it and refuse to participate. They are just ignorant people, no excuse for them. These people range from my cousins to grandparents.
When I was a kid, I remember that black people were called "Negroes" or "colored people", and then I remember reading that "black" was the preferred term, so that's what I always used. "Afro-American" was around for a while but never came into common use, and then "African-American" came into play later on.
Then "people of color" came into fashion, and I found it amusing that it was acceptable but "colored people" was not. It's just a rearrangement of the same words, but then again, "colored" was often used with the connotation of meaning "less than".
Language is interesting and changes constantly. If someone isn't paying attention, they could very well be unwittingly offensive.
Good for you. However, I have mainly found calling such people out though is largely unproductive. I simply limit my time with them and the venues I visit with them. I'm sure there are some relatives that wonder why I have withdrawn so much from the relationships, but that's their problem.
Look, the way I see it, insensitive behavior past a certain age is a reflection on character. I choose to associate with people of solid character. If you don't know how to be kind and respectful of others, I'm not going to have much use for you. There are too many truly good people in my life to waste time with people who were ok letting their moral development stall out in high school.
My mom's father was definitely one of those people.....I think the closest anyone got to calling him out on anything was when he made comments about my cousin Elizabeth dating a guy who is mixed-race. (think one of his parents is white, the other is Mexican)
As if younger relatives never say anything offensive?
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