Why am I getting negative feedback on my pregnancy? (member, present, statistics)
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Because chances are that you will end up divorced if you even marry and your kid will grow up in poverty and taxpayers will support him/her at some point.
Yeah I'm usually not too thrilled when someone is pregnant and I will likely he supporting them.
I'm sorry, this is hilarious...minus the fact that a child is being brought into this drama.
You'll find out when you finally "grow up" and mature.
Lol so true.
I wish you the best, for the sake of your baby and yourself, but it's not an intelligent decision to have kids before you even have a college degree. Statistically, when people have kids younger, like teen moms, they fare very poorly and so do their kids, because there's not enough money to afford college degrees, the example set by the parents is poor, and they grow up in lower income areas and associate with other people at society's margins. Who knows, maybe you'll buck the trend, you'll be a shining light in the dark, or whatever, but you can understand why some people judge when you're peeing into the wind.
Why isn't anyone celebrating your pregnancy? Because you're a single teen mom who has no prospect of supporting this child without major assistance from the welfare state. You cannot work and take care of the child, so you either won't work, or you will get the taxpayers to pay for daycare for the child - to the tune of at least 12K/yr. You are unlikely to have a job that provides health insurance, so you and the baby will be on Medicaid - which will pay for the pregnancy and delivery and then all the baby's healthcare. Add another 50k to the bill, at least for the pregnancy, delivery, and the baby's first year of care, assuming that everything goes well and no one is sick. Even if you were to work full time as a CNA, with the State paying for childcare, you won't earn enough to be able to afford even a one bedroom apartment for you and the child - add on a Section 8 voucher or public housing, to the tune of another 12k/yr at least. You won't earn enough to feed yourself and the child - add on WIC (another 2k/yr) and food stamps (another 2K/yr). Plus maybe a cell phone and service courtesy of the taxpayers - another $500/yr. So, we're looking at the taxpayers kicking in nearly 100K for your teen pregnancy and first year of that baby's life, because as a society, we're not going to let your bad decision to become a teen mom with no visible means of support cause that child to starve, have no access to medical care, have no home.
You're "engaged"? Hahahahahah! You think that means ANYTHING? All it is is something this guy told you, so he could keep getting what he wants. Does he have a decent, full time job? Does he support the two (soon to be three) of you in your own apartment that he pays for, does he pay for the groceries, provide safe transportation? Or are you BOTH receiving welfare benefits (and Medicaid is welfare benefits)? Even if he were doing all those things, if he were serious about marrying you and supporting this child, he would have said, "Let's go down to the courthouse and get married right now, because we have a child on the way." Anything less than that is just BS talk.
THAT'S why no one is crowing over this pregnancy. You've just sentenced yourself to a lifetime of poverty, and your child to a miserable childhood of poverty, and the danger of being abused and killed by your next boyfriend, which is the biggest danger to the life of a child - living with a man who is not his father.
Please reconsider this pregnancy, if it's not too late. If it is too late, consider putting the child up for adoption. You have a CNA, you COULD have a future! Get on Implanon, work full time as a CNA and go to community colllege to work towards getting your RN. Once you have your RN, get your BSN. If you can get your BSN, you're set - you can earn enough to provide a middle class lifestyle and good benefits for yourself and any child you might then choose to have, even without a man. It is very possible to achieve this goal in 4 years, especially if you qualify for financial aid, and could continue living with your parents rent free. Then you could go to school full time, work only part time, and be done in 4 years. You would be 22, with a degree and a career, and the maturity to make better choices about your life, and about the men you choose to associate with.
Why isn't anyone celebrating your pregnancy? Because you're a single teen mom who has no prospect of supporting this child without major assistance from the welfare state. You cannot work and take care of the child, so you either won't work, or you will get the taxpayers to pay for daycare for the child - to the tune of at least 12K/yr. You are unlikely to have a job that provides health insurance, so you and the baby will be on Medicaid - which will pay for the pregnancy and delivery and then all the baby's healthcare. Add another 50k to the bill, at least for the pregnancy, delivery, and the baby's first year of care, assuming that everything goes well and no one is sick. Even if you were to work full time as a CNA, with the State paying for childcare, you won't earn enough to be able to afford even a one bedroom apartment for you and the child - add on a Section 8 voucher or public housing, to the tune of another 12k/yr at least. You won't earn enough to feed yourself and the child - add on WIC (another 2k/yr) and food stamps (another 2K/yr). Plus maybe a cell phone and service courtesy of the taxpayers - another $500/yr. So, we're looking at the taxpayers kicking in nearly 100K for your teen pregnancy and first year of that baby's life, because as a society, we're not going to let your bad decision to become a teen mom with no visible means of support cause that child to starve, have no access to medical care, have no home.
You're "engaged"? Hahahahahah! You think that means ANYTHING? All it is is something this guy told you, so he could keep getting what he wants. Does he have a decent, full time job? Does he support the two (soon to be three) of you in your own apartment that he pays for, does he pay for the groceries, provide safe transportation? Or are you BOTH receiving welfare benefits (and Medicaid is welfare benefits)? Even if he were doing all those things, if he were serious about marrying you and supporting this child, he would have said, "Let's go down to the courthouse and get married right now, because we have a child on the way." Anything less than that is just BS talk.
THAT'S why no one is crowing over this pregnancy. You've just sentenced yourself to a lifetime of poverty, and your child to a miserable childhood of poverty, and the danger of being abused and killed by your next boyfriend, which is the biggest danger to the life of a child - living with a man who is not his father.
Please reconsider this pregnancy, if it's not too late. If it is too late, consider putting the child up for adoption. You have a CNA, you COULD have a future! Get on Implanon, work full time as a CNA and go to community colllege to work towards getting your RN. Once you have your RN, get your BSN. If you can get your BSN, you're set - you can earn enough to provide a middle class lifestyle and good benefits for yourself and any child you might then choose to have, even without a man. It is very possible to achieve this goal in 4 years, especially if you qualify for financial aid, and could continue living with your parents rent free. Then you could go to school full time, work only part time, and be done in 4 years. You would be 22, with a degree and a career, and the maturity to make better choices about your life, and about the men you choose to associate with.
Why isn't anyone celebrating your pregnancy? Because you're a single teen mom who has no prospect of supporting this child without major assistance from the welfare state. You cannot work and take care of the child, so you either won't work, or you will get the taxpayers to pay for daycare for the child - to the tune of at least 12K/yr. You are unlikely to have a job that provides health insurance, so you and the baby will be on Medicaid - which will pay for the pregnancy and delivery and then all the baby's healthcare. Add another 50k to the bill, at least for the pregnancy, delivery, and the baby's first year of care, assuming that everything goes well and no one is sick. Even if you were to work full time as a CNA, with the State paying for childcare, you won't earn enough to be able to afford even a one bedroom apartment for you and the child - add on a Section 8 voucher or public housing, to the tune of another 12k/yr at least. You won't earn enough to feed yourself and the child - add on WIC (another 2k/yr) and food stamps (another 2K/yr). Plus maybe a cell phone and service courtesy of the taxpayers - another $500/yr. So, we're looking at the taxpayers kicking in nearly 100K for your teen pregnancy and first year of that baby's life, because as a society, we're not going to let your bad decision to become a teen mom with no visible means of support cause that child to starve, have no access to medical care, have no home.
You're "engaged"? Hahahahahah! You think that means ANYTHING? All it is is something this guy told you, so he could keep getting what he wants. Does he have a decent, full time job? Does he support the two (soon to be three) of you in your own apartment that he pays for, does he pay for the groceries, provide safe transportation? Or are you BOTH receiving welfare benefits (and Medicaid is welfare benefits)? Even if he were doing all those things, if he were serious about marrying you and supporting this child, he would have said, "Let's go down to the courthouse and get married right now, because we have a child on the way." Anything less than that is just BS talk.
THAT'S why no one is crowing over this pregnancy. You've just sentenced yourself to a lifetime of poverty, and your child to a miserable childhood of poverty, and the danger of being abused and killed by your next boyfriend, which is the biggest danger to the life of a child - living with a man who is not his father.
Please reconsider this pregnancy, if it's not too late. If it is too late, consider putting the child up for adoption. You have a CNA, you COULD have a future! Get on Implanon, work full time as a CNA and go to community colllege to work towards getting your RN. Once you have your RN, get your BSN. If you can get your BSN, you're set - you can earn enough to provide a middle class lifestyle and good benefits for yourself and any child you might then choose to have, even without a man. It is very possible to achieve this goal in 4 years, especially if you qualify for financial aid, and could continue living with your parents rent free. Then you could go to school full time, work only part time, and be done in 4 years. You would be 22, with a degree and a career, and the maturity to make better choices about your life, and about the men you choose to associate with.
OP, I suggest that you read this post out loud (so it really sinks in).The poster made many great points.
I am glad that they pointed out the potential physical danger to the child. I live in a large city and very frequently, usually several times a month, there is yet another infant or child severely abused or killed by the new boyfriend of the mom or the "baby daddy". And, those are only the ones that hit the news. I bet that they are a lot more that are kept hidden and moms insist that their child's injuries are due to sad, unpreventable, freak "accidents".
OP, I suggest that you read this post out loud (so it really sinks in).The poster made many great points.
I am glad that they pointed out the potential physical danger to the child. I live in a large city and very frequently, usually several times a month, there is yet another infant or child severely abused or killed by the new boyfriend of the mom or the "baby daddy". And, those are only the ones that hit the news. I bet that they are a lot more that are kept hidden and moms insist that their child's injuries are due to sad, unpreventable, freak "accidents".
I remember reading an article years ago about what it took to create a happy, prosperous life. It boiled down to three things:
1) Stay in school as long as possible.
2) Get into a stable relationship with a responsible adult.
3) Postpone having children until one's late 20s or early 30s.
It seems that the OP doesn't understand the pickle she's in. And the people surround her do.
1. You're a child having a child
2. With childish ideas about relationships
3. With a child boyfriend/"fiancee"
4. No education between the two of yu
5. Dead end job path with low salary, rare benefits, and physically taxinG
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