Elderly father-in-law getting scammed, what to do? (children, attractive, relatives)
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Regarding her having the rights of a tenant. You can go to the police and ask them to come talk to her. THey can't remove her, but they can advise her that they are watching her closely, and that she might be better off if she just goes and gets her stuff and leaves quietly right now. Often this will make the scammer realize that the *** is up, and they'll move on.
That would be kinda awesome! Does this really happen?
You are going to need to step up as an advocate for your dad, as he would have done when you were a kid.
Let this person know that she may not have chosen such an easy mark.
If he refuses to tell her to leave I'll make sure that his accounts are protected and credit frozen--and let her know that we are aware of her history.
Her history says it all. I saw her ex-husband's facebook page. He looks like the sweetest old man on the planet. She stole 50k from him. There was a 40-year age difference. They were married for a year.
If he refuses to tell her to leave I'll make sure that his accounts are protected and credit frozen--and let her know that we are aware of her history.
That's the best bet - keep her from getting at his assets.
You can't control her, so don't waste energy trying to do that. Your dad is apparently competent and has invited her into his life. The best you can do at this point is make sure he is informed, in a non-judgmental way that will make him defensive, and help him safeguard himself.
The fact that she has tenant rights is distressing, but that is what happens in some states when you bring someone into your home.
FIL knows a little bit about her past, but not how recent her last marriage was and he doesn't know about the credit card/identity theft from 5 years ago.
I like the loan idea.
I like the loan idea too.
What background check service did you use? Sounds like you got some good info.
Your father wondering about the value of his house is a HUGE red flag that the scam is already in the making.
I really don't know what you can do, other than move in with your dad like this woman has.
I'm not sure that you can freeze his bank accounts unless he gives you power of attorney.....were that the case you'd have nothing to worry about.
I think I'd approach her when dad's not around....and give her an earful of the repercussions she will face (from the family) if she tries ripping him off...
Keep a close eye on his bank account...if possible.
The loan idea is a good one....ask him for a loan that equals the value of his home, and tell him you'll make payments....at least he'll have access to his money in small increments.....she will no doubt hate that!!!
What background check service did you use? Sounds like you got some good info.
Went to the public circuit courts site for my state, which gives only part of the picture. Then I got a friend who knows a cop to flesh it out. The cop was happy to help as he sees this kind of thing all the time--often when it's too late to salvage the old guy's retirement money.
Your father wondering about the value of his house is a HUGE red flag that the scam is already in the making.
I really don't know what you can do, other than move in with your dad like this woman has.
I'm not sure that you can freeze his bank accounts unless he gives you power of attorney.....were that the case you'd have nothing to worry about.
I think I'd approach her when dad's not around....and give her an earful of the repercussions she will face (from the family) if she tries ripping him off...
Keep a close eye on his bank account...if possible.
The loan idea is a good one....ask him for a loan that equals the value of his home, and tell him you'll make payments....at least he'll have access to his money in small increments.....she will no doubt hate that!!!
Yep. Paying an appraiser $500 just because you're curious? I don't think so.
He wouldn't go for the loan idea, unfortunately. He's not rich.
Hopefully we can talk him into freezing accounts for his protection.
We just got the details about her record yesterday.
The sons are talking to him as we speak. Hopefully he'll come to his senses.
Last edited by AguaDulce; 11-29-2018 at 08:46 AM..
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