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This totally reminds me of something! I once made the mistake of wearing my sunglasses into the building when I got to work. This one co-worker of mine saw me and said, "Look at you, Rockstar!!" I thought to myself, what a stupid, stupid thing to say to someone! So I didn't respond. But just like with your situation with the coat, I was left wondering why me wearing some accessory warranted such a stupid comment from someone.
I go to the gym nearly every day. It's a block from home. I walk there and don't wear a coat. Yes, it's cold, but I like cold weather...and it's one block, so 1 minute outside. Big deal.
Another regular comes up to me almost every day, saying, "You didn't wear a coat today?"
I want to reply, "Shut up and stop bugging me" but I usually just try to say hello back and have a minute of positive conversation.
Finally, this morning he came up to me, saying the exact same thing as he always does ("You didn't wear a coat today?") and I responded, with a smile, "Well, Mom, if you'd have it dry cleaned and ironed for me, maybe I would."
Was I rude?
No. you put him in his place and made a joke about it. Now I will take a chance and risk rudeness. Since you didn't wear your coat, you did remember your keys right?
The OP has started at least 5 threads about problems with people at his gym. Maybe he should find a new gym? Or perhaps a little self-reflection is in order?
That you're both lawyers does add a little to this. I am not in the law profession, but I interact with a fair amount of lawyers in my job, and I've noticed that with many, their interactions with others often involve jokes with a little edge of menace. Almost as if to push peoples boundaries - to make the other person wonder "Is this guy being friendly or is he challenging me to push back?". It can be tiring dealing with this type when you're in a customer service type job and are not allowed to push back.
Please don't take this to mean ALL lawyers. I know one who is not like this at all and is very sweet. (In fact, he may be slightly "on the spectrum", but he's the research kind of lawyer as opposed to the "arguing to the courtroom" kind).
But in this case, we really don't know the context. Maybe he's seeing how far he can push it. Or maybe he's a bit daft. Or maybe he thinks he's making innocent small talk.
That you're both lawyers does add a little to this. I am not in the law profession, but I interact with a fair amount of lawyers in my job, and I've noticed that with many, their interactions with others often involve jokes with a little edge of menace. Almost as if to push peoples boundaries - to make the other person wonder "Is this guy being friendly or is he challenging me to push back?". It can be tiring dealing with this type when you're in a customer service type job and are not allowed to push back.
Please don't take this to mean ALL lawyers. I know one who is not like this at all and is very sweet. (In fact, he may be slightly "on the spectrum", but he's the research kind of lawyer as opposed to the "arguing to the courtroom" kind).
But in this case, we really don't know the context. Maybe he's seeing how far he can push it. Or maybe he's a bit daft. Or maybe he thinks he's making innocent small talk.
Why is he making a broken record of it, though? As if he can't think of any other topics for small talk. Not believable.
I'm interested to see what happens next. Will he finally leave the OP alone, after the "mom" comment? Or will he at least suddenly discover a whole repertoire of alternative small-talk starter topics?
Why is he making a broken record of it, though? As if he can't think of any other topics for small talk. Not believable.
I'm interested to see what happens next. Will he finally leave the OP alone, after the "mom" comment? Or will he at least suddenly discover a whole repertoire of alternative small-talk starter topics?
OP, inquiring minds want to know.
Other equally inquiring minds think this is self-indulgent non-essential nonsense. OP has started other whiny threads about this gym. Go somewhere else and let those other people work out in peace!
I go to the gym nearly every day. It's a block from home. I walk there and don't wear a coat. Yes, it's cold, but I like cold weather...and it's one block, so 1 minute outside. Big deal.
Another regular comes up to me almost every day, saying, "You didn't wear a coat today?"
I want to reply, "Shut up and stop bugging me" but I usually just try to say hello back and have a minute of positive conversation.
Finally, this morning he came up to me, saying the exact same thing as he always does ("You didn't wear a coat today?") and I responded, with a smile, "Well, Mom, if you'd have it dry cleaned and ironed for me, maybe I would."
Was I rude?
Perfect response. One of those things I always think of after the fact.
Rude...yes but in a good way
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