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Curious on how you balance out seeing family during the Holiday?
So my wife and I are on opposite holiday schedules. My wife works eves on holidays. I work Thanksgiving and New Year's Eve & Days. Wife works Christmas and uncertain what she will work for New Year's.
Now my mom works a part time job now where she works days during the holidays. Mom worked Thanksgiving. Worked days was a 2 hour drive with dinner at 5PM left work at 4PM so my wife, my MIL, and I had Thanksgiving at home.
I haven't seen my family side for 1 Christmas. My wife's side 2 Christmas's. Families both eat around 4 and are 90 mins apart.
Curious on any suggestions how to balance sewing both families this Christmas or impossible???
I can't keep track of all that, but you need to look at all your schedules and find a time when you are all free. Or don't. With that many schedules, you might not find a time to get together with one or both families. I've never had that many odd schedules to contend with.
I can't keep track of all that, but you need to look at all your schedules and find a time when you are all free. Or don't. With that many schedules, you might not find a time to get together with one or both families. I've never had that many odd schedules to contend with.
Well the game plan the wife and I are thinking is:
Friend 1 Saturday before Christmas
Friend 2 & 3 Sunday before Christmas
Grandma and Grandpa from my side of the family Christmas Eve Lunch
Mom Christmas Eve Dinner
Wife and I Christmas Morning
MIL & Wife's side of the family Christmas Day Afternoon
Then Christmas Day Evening up in the air lol
There is no way I would orchestrate holidays that tightly. I would exercise my hard-earned ability to just say no (but in a very charming manner) and plan to visit some of those people at other times. Unless they really look forward to welcoming someone who is poised to bolt out the door shortly in order to make the next appointment.
Well the game plan the wife and I are thinking is:
Friend 1 Saturday before Christmas
Friend 2 & 3 Sunday before Christmas
Grandma and Grandpa from my side of the family Christmas Eve Lunch
Mom Christmas Eve Dinner
Wife and I Christmas Morning
MIL & Wife's side of the family Christmas Day Afternoon
Then Christmas Day Evening up in the air lol
Oh my, I'm getting a headache just reading that schedule.
What we did, and what many of my friends did, was celebrate one holiday with one side of the family and a different holiday with the other side of the family (ie. Thanksgiving with my parents & Christmas with the in-laws). Plus, especially when our children were young we sometimes just spent a holiday with our immediate family in our own home.
I always thought that it was ridiculous for young couples (especially after having children) to rush between several houses on a holiday. I once had a co-worker who would eat three Thanksgiving meals, first one at her parent's house, then another meal at his mom & step-dad's house & finally another meal at his dad & step-mom's house. They did that for several years as all of the parents insisted that they were the "priority". IMHO, if you are old enough to be married you are old enough to have a quiet holiday at your own home with just your spouse (if that is what you want to do).
Oh my, I'm getting a headache just reading that schedule.
What we did, and what many of my friends did, was celebrate one holiday with one side of the family and a different holiday with the other side of the family (ie. Thanksgiving with my parents & Christmas with the in-laws). Plus, when our children were young we sometimes just spent a holiday with our immediate family in our own home.
My uncle James and Aunt Myrtle did something similar - Thanksgivings were spent with her family, and Christmas would be spent with his family.
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IMHO, if you are old enough to be married you are old enough to have a quiet holiday at your own home with just your spouse (if that is what you want to do).
