Should I tell her now or at the meeting? (issues, money, children)
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Well she has contacted me. Seems either she was not clear, or she misspoke or even I am mistaken.
She claims to not have adopted any kids, fostered some kids but not since 2012.... But I did have a phone chat where she mentioned the "Kiddos" so am not 100% she's lying or being honest.
But we have agreed to meet (I mean if she's telling the truth, then I guess it can't hurt) so we'll see what happens...
I just saw this topic and was just reading through it thinking I bet she doesn't want this guy to see the kids because they don't exist.
Well, sure enough.
No, you could be right. She could have said she adopted children. But really didn't. Some people can say the strangest things only to say later...oh, no I never said that.
this sounds just like my niece's husband's sister (yes, that is convoluted).
although i have only heard my niece's side of the story, she is grounded enough for me to trust her.
bottom line: her husband's sister has a history of marrying servicemen, having at least one child, and divorcing.
then it is on to the next one. she has done this twice that i know about. the children in this case provide her
with more "support" money than just a divorce without children. then she "makes" her mother care for the children.
as above:
go to the meeting.
prepare yourself for multiple lies.
do not argue. she does not care about your opinion.
listen, learn, and evaluate later. do not make a "deal" at Denny's.
and, above all, please have a happy, merry, and all that Christmas.
No, you could be right. She could have said she adopted children. But really didn't. Some people can say the strangest things only to say later...oh, no I never said that.
Or since she was fostering these children, it's more likely that she said she might be adopting them, or was hoping to adopt them.
Sounds like your and her communication skills are clearly lacking. There is no reason to have so much mystery and ambiguity, especially with family.
Well, ponder on the fact that it had been 10 years. Since we spoke. Now she "Might" be telling the truth, maybe not. But what stopped her from contacting me? She does have my number (Hasn't changed in all that time) and I wasn't unwilling to talk to her.... She could have called and said "Hey, why haven't you called me?" or "Hey, thinking about you"..... (Yes I could have done the same, but being the "Injured" party, why would I want to speak with such a person?
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If she does or doesn't have kids, I would think, would be a thing someone would know about their sibling, so there is quite a bit to this story you have left out.
Not if she's not been in contact for several months or (In this case) years. I knew were she lived, never cared to meet with her. But that was due to the "Communication" we last had. In all honesty, I didn't care either way. Reflecting back....I didn't speak with her from 2005 till that phone call earlier this year. (Excluding the short call when I was in the hospital in 2010 with a CHF)
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Also, your surmising that she might think you'd go "all KKK" if you knew she had kids of color says something about your moral character and I hope that is untrue (only because it would be nice to have one less racist person in the country, but I understand that is just wishful thinking about a stranger).
I take it, you missed this part?>>> (I suspect she adopted children of color which I think is great as she sees the need of the child and not race but thinks or feels I'll go all KKK about it....sheesh..)<<<< But my younger sister can "Surmise" like I did (Incorrectly) and be wrong totally. As you seem to have done also.
Note: I work with hispanic, russian, asian, black, crazies (We're graveyard) so if I was such, I'd not even be employed there.
I just think it's weird that you wouldn't be more direct, like, "Hey, What's up, sis? Haven't heard from you in ten years! and WHY Denny's?" - that alone would make me leary!
But I think you should go so you can report back to us.
Or since she was fostering these children, it's more likely that she said she might be adopting them, or was hoping to adopt them.
Or she actually did adopt but is now saying she didn't because the OP confronted her about it (and she still doesn't want the OP to meet the kids but doesn't want to further upset the OP). I'm guessing there's a reason why the meeting is at a Denny's as opposed to her house.
OP, just curious and hopefully this question isn't too personal but are you homeless? I noticed that you list your location as "in a vehicle".
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