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he do this? I haven't seen him in a decade. Long story for another post Let me answer first, yes; I'd be somewhat open to reconciliation. That is not the question or the issue here.
I am a professional private investigator and I have a fair amount of knowledge of the law. I have a masters in a related field and over 25 years of experience. Over the years, I've seen many weird and effed up things.
Usually address fraud has a reason - voting, getting benifits from living in a certain area, voting, education - reduced instate tuition, or a better school district and a myriad of other things.
My son is NOT using our address for any of these reasons. He is 30, and obviously; I'm not responsible for his debts, which appear to be considerable.
We receive his mail - ALL of it. It upsets my wife a lot, for some reason. Lately, I have found it annoying.
Legally, although I can, I am not at liberty to investigate his credit - which could give me an idea of where he resides.
My question is - why in the world would he continue to use my address and not his own? Accidentally, seeing my last name on what looks like a bill - my wife goes by her maiden name - I opened up a bill from a state university in Florida that says that he can't register for classes because of an out standing balance. So, I know that he is still attempting to complete his undergrad degree, in nursing, it appears. We live in OH so he is not using the address to get lower tuition.
My wife is not comfortable with him knowing our address and with us not knowing ours. He hates her. He has had mental health issues, which run in his mother's family. He has broken things, smashed windows and spray painted "douchbaggers live here" on our former house before leaving to live at his maternal uncle's home.
He once threw my wife to the floor. At the time, I prevented her from calling the cops and pressing charges because I did not want him to have a criminal record. He was 15 at the time. I realize now that I should have let my wife call the police, but I was being protective of my son.
My wife has always thought that he was capable of violence. Even to the extent of murder. I do not.
It appears that he has lived in FL. NY. Washington State and OR. However, his ADDRESS is always mine.
1. Why would he hide his address?
2.. If fraud is not the intent, has he broken the law?
3. What can he glean from doing this?
4. He is bi-polar and my wife thinks he is not suited for the nursing profession. I think she's right. Should she do anything about that?
5. Should I be concerned with this?
6. Should I call the board of elections? The DMV? Our address is on all of this.
Do you think my wife is over reacting? She never wants to see a piece of mail from him again. Am I missing something? If I report this to the post master, won't we be on the wrong side of the law for opening his mail?
He once threw my wife to the floor. At the time, I prevented her from calling the cops and pressing charges because I did not want him to have a criminal record. He was 15 at the time. I realize now that I should have let my wife call the police, but I was being protective of my son.
My wife has always thought that he was capable of violence. Even to the extent of murder. I do not.
I think you know why but you don't want to admit it.
This is your profession. You were sure to tell us your professional credentials at the beginning of this post, yet you claim not to know why your own son would do this. It sounds like you're still deep in denial.
If I were your wife, I'd be PO'd that you are dismissing my concerns and aren't being more proactive about this.
Your wife isn't over-reacting and you better start taking her concerns more seriously or your dismissive attitude could be the cause of you becoming estranged from your wife too.
Get your head out of the sand about why he's using your address - you know why he's doing it - and stop ignoring your civic and legal responsibilities and your wife's fear of your son. You know that what he's doing is wrong and if you don't report your son's criminal behaviour to authorities you could end up being held accountable for his criminal activity yourself and be charged with collusion in fraud and who knows what else, maybe violence. Is that what you want?
If you really are the professional investigator that you say you are then you know what you are obligated to do.
So you haven't seen your son in a decade. And, don't know his real address.
What have you done with all of those years and years of mail?
I was wondering the same thing.
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