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You are in a bar or restaurant and someone sends you a drink to express interest or get a path in to speak with you. But you are not available or interested in talking. And further, you don't want the drink at all. What is the best way to refuse this politely?
Not only is a drink from a stranger a safety concern, I just always feel very uncomfortable when this happens. I travel a lot and am often going through work notes when I'm sitting at a bar. I'm happily coupled and not entertaining new relationship options. But I don't want to be rude.
"No thank you. I need to stay sharp and focus on my work this evening."
Typically the bartender is the go between and will come over and tell you that the person bought you a drink. So in that case should you just say no to the bartender? Or do you need to talk to the drink buyer too?
"No thank you" is fine. You don't owe an explanation or an apology.
When I tended bar, I always made sure to ask the requested recipient, rather than just send the drink over. It gave people an easier out.
Yes considerate servers will do just that.
I wonder why people still do this with so much on the news about drugging drinks and date rape.
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