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Old 01-14-2019, 02:05 PM
 
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Self-sufficiency and independence (financial, personal, etc.) are the name of the game here. Moving out will help you gain life skills and how to overcome obstacles. Staying at home with your parents is a safety net that will not allow you to grow as a person.

I don't have a problem with responsible, working young adults who may live with their folks for a few years after college to save money in order to buy a place and/or pay off debt if they went to an expensive school. But if you're an adult just lounging around at your folks' place with no job, not getting additional education, or not contributing in some sort of meaningful way (taking care of a sick parent / grandparent around the clock), there's no excuse.

Some folks get into the mindset of not taking certain jobs because they are "too good" for them because they have a college degree. Even in "low-skilled" jobs or other careers that may not be directly in your field of interest, there are a lot of valuable skills to learn (customer service, conflict resolution, managing teams, etc.) that are applicable across the board in any field.
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Old 01-14-2019, 02:47 PM
 
Location: Bay Area, CA
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You're in Midland, Texas?


The cost of living is actually 4% lower than the national average.


https://www.payscale.com/cost-of-liv.../Texas-Midland
Hahaha... here I was assuming they lived in NYC, SF, Seattle, or thereabouts. Midland, Texas?? Sheesh, OP should try living here in the Bay Area if they think rent is high. You'll have a hard time finding a STUDIO apartment for less than $2000/mo! And yet most of us manage to survive, even with lower-paying jobs. Learn to adult, lol.

And having a liberal arts degree is no excuse, either. My BA is in English Literature, and I still found employment even before going to graduate school. They weren't DREAM jobs (hence why I continued my education), but they were far above "McJobs" too. What kind of job do you want?
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Old 01-14-2019, 02:54 PM
 
Location: Bay Area, CA
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Once again, this point is correct. Money has always been a primary way that people will control other people. If you don't want anyone to have control over you, you can't take money from anyone. Sometimes the non-monetary cost is worth it. Sometimes it isn't. You have to decide. What's more important to you -- continuing to find some job that you deem worthy? Or living in your parents' house?
Yup. One of the greatest things about becoming self-sufficient was finally having 100% control over my life, and being able to call ALL of the shots... sometimes my family (sister and parents) will try to tell me what to do, and it feels soooo good being able to say "my money, my choice."

I still value their opinions, for the most part; but it's wonderful to have final say on everything now.
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Old 01-14-2019, 02:59 PM
 
Location: Bay Area, CA
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Unfortunately a course in the Arts doesn't have many job openings and if they do, they pay very little. Use art as a hobby until the day comes that you find a decent paying job in the Arts (good luck with that).
Their degree is in LIBERAL Arts, not Visual Arts - very different things. Liberal Arts covers a wide variety of subjects (e.g. literature, philosophy, sociology), none of which have to do with actually making art.
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Old 01-14-2019, 07:56 PM
 
Location: Reno, NV
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Their degree is in LIBERAL Arts, not Visual Arts - very different things. Liberal Arts covers a wide variety of subjects (e.g. literature, philosophy, sociology), none of which have to do with actually making art.
The same thing arguably applies, though - any degree is what you make of it, but I think it's fair to generalize that creative arts and humanities degrees tend to offer less of a clearly outlined path to stable employment than STEM or professional degrees do.

I work in STEM and I have both creative arts (drawing, comic making, game design) and liberal arts (history, languages, psychology) among my hobbies. I hope to one day pursue one of those subjects full-time but so far it hasn't worked out that way.
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Old 01-15-2019, 05:35 AM
 
Location: New Britain, CT
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Join the military. With your degree you will go in with a higher rank than a HS Grad. You will get trained to do an actual job that a liberal arts (want fries with that) doesn't do. My 21yo stepdaughter is at boot camp right now. Joined the Army National Guard as a PFC because she has an associates degree. After basic training she is going into combat engineer school to learn how to build bridges. And the Army is paying for the rest of her college. She even got a $20,000 sign on bonus.
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Old 01-15-2019, 07:12 AM
 
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My grandfather worked every day of his adult life in a loud, noisy textile mill doing a repetitive task. Ya think this was his dream job? Nope. He did what had to be done, like other men in his community did.



Take the job and stop bellyaching.
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Old 01-15-2019, 07:33 AM
 
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Parents just want you to work.......I get the vibe you have been unemployed for a long time.

I will give you a tip: a lot of employers would rather hire you away from another employer than hire you off your parents couch.
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Old 01-15-2019, 08:32 AM
 
Location: Massachusetts
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Sounds to me like your parents are trying to light a fire under your butt to get out and do something.
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Old 01-15-2019, 09:07 AM
 
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Your parents know you better than we do. Nothing wrong with a job doing physical labor. Maybe they see you on the computer all day and believe you would be more successful separating from a screen and doing something physical.

Most people are not going to earn super high incomes and can lead very happy lives earning the average wages.
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