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Old 01-18-2019, 12:35 PM
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Last-minute invitations are annoying, but if I'm available, I'll go. This was before children. Now that I have children, last-minute invitations are so annoying that we won't go. It's too last minute and since I have children, I have a lot of other things on my mind, and pondering a last-minute invitation is too stressful.
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Old 01-18-2019, 02:45 PM
Location: Mt. Lebanon
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Not necessarily rude. it depends how close you are with the person inviting you. if you are very close then last minute invites should be ok, since you are close and very informal. For the rest, well, tough luck. people usually have plans. last minute invitations are rarely honored.
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Old 01-18-2019, 03:25 PM
Location: Eugene, Oregon
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Originally Posted by mej210390 View Post
Love them, Hate them? Think they are rude, Inconsiderate?? or something else?

Personally I hate them and think they are rude, but what are your thoughts on this matter, would love to hear peoples views?

They probably invited you to replace someone who cancelled shortly before.
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Old 01-18-2019, 04:48 PM
Location: Scrapple country
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Originally Posted by jmcahacker View Post
That's a lot to read into a very vague question
And that's why I worded it "I took the OP to mean" and not "this is definitely what the OP meant". I didn't say there was no question. I just said that's the way I took it.
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Old 01-18-2019, 06:19 PM
Location: America's Expensive Toilet
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Most of the time I think it's rude, but I often make exceptions for people I haven't seen in a while.

If anyone wants an ex: One couple we hang out with will text us last minute, "We're in your neighborhood. Wanna hang out/Can we stop by?"

First off, they'd been at dinner, so they'd been in the area for a while. They could have texted us earlier instead of 15 minutes before they are going to come by. Second, it implies that we're not busy with something or make no consideration for dropping by last minute (house may have been messy, we were in the middle of a movie, etc).

If anything, give me a couple hours notice. Don't expect me to drop everything I'm doing at the last minute for you. For formal events, it is very rude to invite someone last minute.
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Old 01-19-2019, 04:36 PM
Location: Asheville NC
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We are retired. We usually plan group events ahead of time. If we decide at the last minute, usually during the week, that we want to go out to dinner or to the wine club, we will call friends at the spur of the moment, to see if they want to join us. Often they do. We also accept spontaneous invitations if we are available. No thought of rudeness on either part.
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