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Old 01-16-2019, 06:08 AM
 
Location: Brisbane, Queensland, Australia
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Love them, Hate them? Think they are rude, Inconsiderate?? or something else?

Personally I hate them and think they are rude, but what are your thoughts on this matter, would love to hear peoples views?
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Old 01-16-2019, 06:21 AM
 
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I love them but I can't always attend at the last minute.

Don't see why it would be "rude" --???
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Old 01-16-2019, 06:27 AM
 
Location: Arizona
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Many people like to be spontaneous. They decide they want to go to dinner and start calling people. Or they decide that afternoon to have a party that evening. Hardly rude.
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Old 01-16-2019, 06:33 AM
 
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Don’t see why it’s rude. If you’re not the spontaneous kind and refuse invitations so be it.
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Old 01-16-2019, 06:44 AM
 
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I don't find it rude at all.

Perhaps you can provide an example OP?
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Old 01-16-2019, 07:00 AM
 
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It used to be considered rude, for a man to call a woman late for a date. (You can call me anything, just don't call me late for dinner). It implied that the man predicted she wouldn't otherwise have plans.

Also, it was considered rude to invite someone to a party late, on a social day of the year, say New Years Eve or July 4, or to a high school prom or homecoming, where if they accepted it would show that they hadn't had any other invitations prior to that. (My dance card is embarrassingly empty).

OP, is that what you're talking about? Or are you talking about getting text at 3 p.m. from a friend who'd like to get together a few women for a happy hour that night? That's not rude. That's just spontaneous.
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Old 01-16-2019, 07:07 AM
 
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Since this was posted in Non-Romantic Relationships, I answered the question based on it not being dates.
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Old 01-16-2019, 07:07 AM
 
Location: Dallas, TX and Las Vegas, NV
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In the old school of it was considered poor etiquette but in my world I threw away that rule book long ago. If I get a last minute invite and want/have time to go, I go. Always flattered to be thought of and invited. However I rarely invite people last minute because I’m a bit shy.
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Old 01-16-2019, 07:53 AM
 
Location: Scrapple country
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I took the OP to mean cases where other people have long since been formally invited, and you get a last-minute, very informal, casually tossed-off invitation. (Think of a wedding where you're invited over email a week ahead of time and told "The seats/food are already paid for and some people had to drop out, so feel free to come and take up a seat". Or of running into an acquaintance and being asked "What are you doing tomorrow night? I'm having a birthday party").

Yes, those types of invitations bother me, but I've also been told by other people that I'm too sensitive about such things. Which could be true.
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Old 01-16-2019, 08:01 AM
 
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I took the OP to mean cases where other people have long since been formally invited, and you get a last-minute, very informal, casually tossed-off invitation. (Think of a wedding where you're invited over email a week ahead of time and told "The seats/food are already paid for and some people had to drop out, so feel free to come and take up a seat". Or of running into an acquaintance and being asked "What are you doing tomorrow night? I'm having a birthday party").
You got all of that out of the OP's very limited title and post? We must be reading very different things.
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