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Old 01-19-2019, 05:08 PM
 
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She decided to have it on an island on the east cost. (We are all in the Midwest). Itís both her and her fiancťes second wedding. We have savings but we have a lot of debt to pay off. I donít even know if we can both get the time off work. Iím going through a lot with depression and anxiety and I donít want to travel. Am I wrong?
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Old 01-19-2019, 05:18 PM
 
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If you don't want to go, don't go.

She'll be all right.
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Old 01-19-2019, 05:19 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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At the end of the day, she will still be married whether or not you are there to witness it.
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Old 01-19-2019, 05:20 PM
 
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She’s not ok. Her and her family are like family. I just don’t know why she has to do this when most people can’t afford it.
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Old 01-19-2019, 05:21 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Sheís not ok. Her and her family are like family. I just donít know why she has to do this when most people canít afford it.
You said you have savings. You are choosing not to go.
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Old 01-19-2019, 05:27 PM
 
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Right but we have a lot of debt.
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Old 01-19-2019, 05:29 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Right but we have a lot of debt.
Then why the heck do you have savings?

The interest rate from your debt is probably WAY higher than any interest your savings account may be earning. Pay down some of your debt with it.

Anyway, if your friend is as close as you say, she should be fairly aware of your financial situation. If not, explain to her that you wish her the best but can't afford the trip.
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Old 01-19-2019, 05:29 PM
 
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tell her you cant take off from work
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Old 01-19-2019, 05:31 PM
 
Location: Richardson, TX
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People that have destination weddings should not expect people to go. They should send invitations to those they love and be happy with those that decide to spend their hard-earned vacation time and money to be there, and OK with those that don't or can't.

She needs to chill out. Many people get one or zero expensive vacations per year, it's the height of arrogance to order somebody else to plan their vacation around your wedding.
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Old 01-19-2019, 05:33 PM
 
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If I was her, I would not let a friend or family member not coming to my wedding ruin my day. She'll live.
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