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The more to this story is that I like the sound of her voice- it's soothing when we speak face to face. Oh and when she asked me to do household chores, we would have close interaction, sometimes we'd brush our hands together and the way she dressed and acted around me made me feel happy. She had a tendency to wear revealing clothing and there's no way a woman would dress like that around her roommate if there wasn't trust. So there's more than just the host / guest business relationship and usual roommate dynamics. I also thought she trusted me since she keeps her bathroom door open when she showers, her bedroom door open too, almost tempting me to come visit her. But today when I was going upstairs, she slammed her bedroom door suddenly as I reached the top of the stairs, and I asked her why, don't you trust me? I thought you trusted me 90% like you told me before? Then she said, she's changing her clothes, it's private!
OK so I misunderstood her intentions when she was using me and getting close. I thought she was somewhat into me.
And just like what the other poster said... There it is.
P.S. I'm a female.... and I've had female roomies. If they're the type to wear "revealing" (whatever that means to you), it had absolutely nothing to do with trust. That's just what they liked wearing. Unless you mean like sheer items, and barely there negligee? Then... just wow... definitely not something I'd want to see, regardless of whether roomie trusted me or not. The fact you've tied "trust" into this is very strange.
The more to this story is that I like the sound of her voice- it's soothing when we speak face to face. Oh and when she asked me to do household chores, we would have close interaction, sometimes we'd brush our hands together and the way she dressed and acted around me made me feel happy. She had a tendency to wear revealing clothing and there's no way a woman would dress like that around her roommate if there wasn't trust. So there's more than just the host / guest business relationship and usual roommate dynamics. I also thought she trusted me since she keeps her bathroom door open when she showers, her bedroom door open too, almost tempting me to come visit her. But today when I was going upstairs, she slammed her bedroom door suddenly as I reached the top of the stairs, and I asked her why, don't you trust me? I thought you trusted me 90% like you told me before? Then she said, she's changing her clothes, it's private!
OK so I misunderstood her intentions when she was using me and getting close. I thought she was somewhat into me.
It sounds like you're into her. Which would explain why you have been rebooking this airbnb for over a year and staying there despite all the issues you complained about in your first post.
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It sounds like you're into her. Which would explain why you have been rebooking this airbnb for over a year and stsying there despite all the issues you complained about in your first post.
And just like what the other poster said... There it is.
P.S. I'm a female.... and I've had female roomies. If they're the type to wear "revealing" (whatever that means to you), it had absolutely nothing to do with trust. That's just what they liked wearing. Unless you mean like sheer items, and barely there negligee? Then... just wow... definitely not something I'd want to see, regardless of whether roomie trusted me or not. The fact you've tied "trust" into this is very strange.
OK I'll explain further. Whenever she asked me for help, especially when it required getting close, like 2 pairs of hands to build some furniture that she didn't have the strength to lift (remember she had an incident with "the other woman" -- he ex husband's new wife and was thrown to the ground, breaking and damaging her wrist), she had this tendency to wear a sweatshirt that she would remove when she got hot. And underneath was a tank top or sometimes blouses with deep neck scoops and her chest was right in my face. I could easily see the top of her chest and her bra too. Frankly, combined with her foreign accent, it turned me on. So I would continue helping her and try to look her in the eyes or at her forehead but with chest in my face and being somewhat attracted to her, it was hard to resist.
I once asked her if she trusted me and she said so so..well.. 90%. So if she trusts me 90% and wore revealing tops like I described above, touched my hands so I could feel her warm and soft skin, by accident or on purpose, it should not be a big deal to see each other in her pajamas, right? In fact she gave me a new pair of PJs for Christmas and I had this idea of changing into them and asking her if she thought the garment fit properly, but on one condition. I was going to tell her I'm shy for her to see me in PJs, and tell her, "if I show you mine, you show me yours". That will be the next trust test. If she resists the idea, I'll just counter, but I thought you trusted me? Or: we're friends right, so what's the big deal?
So there you go, now you know why I've stayed so long. I should probably spend more time taking action to get out of there rather than continue to do things for her / be nice...maybe when I lose my job and I have to move out as I can then no longer afford the rent, I will. But hopefully I'll move sooner than that!
OK I'll explain further. Whenever she asked me for help, especially when it required getting close, like 2 pairs of hands to build some furniture that she didn't have the strength to lift (remember she had an incident with "the other woman" -- he ex husband's new wife and was thrown to the ground, breaking and damaging her wrist), she had this tendency to wear a sweatshirt that she would remove when she got hot. And underneath was a tank top or sometimes blouses with deep neck scoops and her chest was right in my face. I could easily see the top of her chest and her bra too. Frankly, combined with her foreign accent, it turned me on. So I would continue helping her and try to look her in the eyes or at her forehead but with chest in my face and being somewhat attracted to her, it was hard to resist.
I once asked her if she trusted me and she said so so..well.. 90%. So if she trusts me 90% and wore revealing tops like I described above, touched my hands so I could feel her warm and soft skin, by accident or on purpose, it should not be a big deal to see each other in her pajamas, right? In fact she gave me a new pair of PJs for Christmas and I had this idea of changing into them and asking her if she thought the garment fit properly, but on one condition. I was going to tell her I'm shy for her to see me in PJs, and tell her, "if I show you mine, you show me yours". That will be the next trust test. If she resists the idea, I'll just counter, but I thought you trusted me? Or: we're friends right, so what's the big deal?
So there you go, now you know why I've stayed so long. I should probably spend more time taking action to get out of there rather than continue to do things for her / be nice...maybe when I lose my job and I have to move out as I can then no longer afford the rent, I will. But hopefully I'll move sooner than that!
You portrayed yourself as a victim, when really it just sounds like you're just too afraid to be a lesbian.
Now what do you expect us to do? Have you ever had therapy before?
I assumed the OP was a guy.
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