When you hold the door for someone and s/he just walks through without any thanks (person, conversation)
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I also find it irritating when people walk right past you between you and something you are looking at in a grocery store and don't say excuse me.
Sounds like you're taking up the whole aisle if they're able to walk between you and the grocery shelves. Why should someone have to apologize for your actions? Seems you should be apologizing for not giving people enough space to go behind you.
I say thank you. Don’t let the jerks get you down. Look at it as a good way to judge the character of strangers.
Why judge strangers based on a 5 second interaction? Maybe their kid is sick, maybe they are distracted, maybe they had a miscarriage the day before or found out their Dad died or are otherwise having a bad day and not even thinking. I always say thank you and its the right thing to do but I'm not going to judge someone's character from 5 seconds because I am never going to see them again anyway and I would hate to think someone could be so judgy if I happened to be having a bad day or was absent minded for a few seconds!
Last edited by MelanieB1980; 01-25-2019 at 05:07 PM..
Why judge strangers based on a 5 second interaction? Maybe their kid is sick, maybe they are distracted, maybe they had a miscarriage the day before or found out their Dad died or are otherwise having a bad day and not even thinking. I always say thank you and its the right thing to do but I'm not going to judge someone's character from 5 seconds because I am never going to see them again anyway!
But you should never do something with the expectation of being rewarded, even with a thank you.
You can never be sure how your kindness has positively effected the world.
Having said that, good manners seem to be unimportant to the masses.
to the masses?
I do agree that kindness is the best way to interact with the world.
I don't need a thank you when I hold the door for someone.
But I don't feel that I am superior in some way to "the masses."
Of things in life that aren't worth worrying about, this is definitely one of them. However:
1. When someone holds the door for you, do you thank him or her (even by a nod or a wave)? If not, why not?
2. When you hold the door for someone and the person just walks through without acknowledging it, do you get irked?
This applies to elevators, too.
This morning, I was walking into a building and held two doors for one woman--even waiting a few seconds each time. She just went through without any kind of acknowledgement. When I glanced at her, a bit irked, she said, very forcefully, "What the #() are you looking at!"
Thanks.
I always say some kind of thanks or nod if a door is held for me. However, as a woman the only time I'd actually step aside and hold a door is if someone was carrying something. Otherwise I just walk through and hold it open behind me for a bit - if that's all I do, I hardly notice much less expect a big thanks (even though I always say so myself).
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