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Old 02-09-2019, 06:42 AM
 
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That's how I am. I'm polite and nice to others, but I don't really enjoy dealing with people. I stay in touch with my family because it is the right thing to do and it's important to have support, but I don't really miss them when I'm not around them. I'm a loner and I've gone a couple of weeks without talking to anyone else, and I didn't feel lonely or really miss other people at all. I'd say that would be to the far end of the introverted range.

I know extroverts who can't stand being alone and complain about being "lonely" when they are by themselves for any length of time. I guess we're all just wired differently.
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Old 02-09-2019, 07:37 AM
 
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I find dealing with people difficult.
I know this is different from what you're asking -- I do enjoy my own company but- to an extent.

Then when I want to be with people, I find it difficult bec. I judge people, and find them wanting.

So I envy you!


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That's how I am. I'm polite and nice to others, but I don't really enjoy dealing with people. I stay in touch with my family because it is the right thing to do and it's important to have support, but I don't really miss them when I'm not around them. I'm a loner and I've gone a couple of weeks without talking to anyone else, and I didn't feel lonely or really miss other people at all. I'd say that would be to the far end of the introverted range.

I know extroverts who can't stand being alone and complain about being "lonely" when they are by themselves for any length of time. I guess we're all just wired differently.
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Old 02-09-2019, 07:42 AM
 
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I do enjoy the company of others but I do not liked being judged,so i avoid them.
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Old 02-09-2019, 08:02 AM
 
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As an adult, it seems that spending time with people, solely out of enjoyment, is almost unheard of. People spend time with people as adults to get something out of them: customers, money, etc. So unless there's a clear and specific purpose, people don't seem to connect. Even at church, people seem to want to get together with me either to persuade me to volunteer for a committee or to increase my annual pledge. I have limited patience for that.
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Old 02-09-2019, 08:14 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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As an adult, it seems that spending time with people, solely out of enjoyment, is almost unheard of. People spend time with people as adults to get something out of them: customers, money, etc. So unless there's a clear and specific purpose, people don't seem to connect.
This is so sad to read. What a hopeless outlook.

I have “my tribe,” a small group of different people who I adore and have great fun with. They can be annoying at times but so can I.

I’ve lived long enough to have learned that we weren’t put here to do this alone, so I learned how to find those who are worth doing “this” with.
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Old 02-09-2019, 08:15 AM
 
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Have been a loner my entire life and of course there are reasons why that happened. For most of my life I chided myself because I wasn't comfortable being social and/or being like others. Finally, in my later years, I've learned to accept who I am, which has resulted in a contentment never before experienced.

It's difficult for me to find common ground with other people. I do have one friend who is very much like me and although we don't spend a lot of time together, we do talk on the phone weekly and never run out of things to say.

We have seniors in my apartment complex that meet regularly in the clubhouse for snacks and chit chat; at times I join in but once I'm there I begin to feel trapped and can't wait to leave. I like meaningful conversations and have tried numerous times to get them started but it always ends up they prefer to talk about their aches and pains, their grandchildren or great grandchildren. It was the same when I was much younger and friends only wanted to talk about their kid's diaper rash, and not having children I would tune them out.

When out and about I'm at ease striking up conversations with complete strangers and I believe it's because I don't feel trapped and can exit stage left asap.
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Old 02-09-2019, 08:35 AM
 
Location: North Dakota
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I'm becoming a full blown hermit myself. It's not all bad.
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Old 02-09-2019, 08:49 AM
 
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As an adult, it seems that spending time with people, solely out of enjoyment, is almost unheard of. People spend time with people as adults to get something out of them: customers, money, etc. So unless there's a clear and specific purpose, people don't seem to connect. Even at church, people seem to want to get together with me either to persuade me to volunteer for a committee or to increase my annual pledge. I have limited patience for that.
Reading some of your other posts here - interaction is a two way street.
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Old 02-09-2019, 08:58 AM
 
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That's how I am. I'm polite and nice to others, but I don't really enjoy dealing with people. I stay in touch with my family because it is the right thing to do and it's important to have support, but I don't really miss them when I'm not around them. I'm a loner and I've gone a couple of weeks without talking to anyone else, and I didn't feel lonely or really miss other people at all. I'd say that would be to the far end of the introverted range.

I know extroverts who can't stand being alone and complain about being "lonely" when they are by themselves for any length of time. I guess we're all just wired differently.

Is there an actual question here?
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Old 02-09-2019, 09:15 AM
 
Location: Dallas
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When I was younger, I loved being out and about with people. Now that I'm older, I treasure the time I have to myself outside of work and other obligations. Having to socialize would take that time away from doing what I actually want to do. I'm friendly, but really enjoy my own company more than anyone else I'd spend time with.
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