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Originally Posted by Grace84
Where can I meet genuine people who won't drop you soon as some partner comes along?
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Generally, you can't. Also, you should probably be more focused on your own romantic endeavors as a solution to this.
Based upon your screen name, it appears as though you are female and born in 1984, making you 34/35 right now. By age 30 at the latest, most people are part of established couples, even if they are not married. Those born in 1984 are early Millennials (Pew definition birth years 1981-1996). Millennials have been known for postponing or not getting married entirely but most are still coupling up. A completely unattached 34/35 year old is going to struggle socially with non-romantic relationships. Someone who is single and unattached in their 30s is going to have a difficult time forming or retaining existing friendships with people either in the established couple phase of life and/or the married/established couple with young children phase of life.
In general, after about age 25 or so, friendships are totally overrated. It's not worth the time to put much effort into making or retaining them. The focus at that point should be romantic relationships. OP-if you happen to become part of a couple, it will be easier for you to reach out to existing friends and revamp those relationships as it is much more common for two sets of couples to spend time together socially. I happen to think multiple couples hanging out is pretty silly, as I am not tremendously social and prefer to focus on my romantic relationships. However, I realize that not all share this viewpoint and many couples do spend a fair amount of time with other couples in a social context.