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I wouldn't even have my bearings yet from the travelling and then would be time to pack up and leave... lol, no.
It's odd the daughter doesn't see this is not enough time to relax and enjoy a trip like that. OP should not have to make other plans for herself to go somewhere else, if she is not comfortable doing so.
Frankly, my mom would have my azz if I tried to pull something like that.
Exactly, most people wouldn't. Seems to be lost on some. The OP would really only have 2 days in Hawaii.
Why even unpack? Just bring an overnight bag...LOL.
It's a waste of time to have to travel for so many hours on a plane unless you're staying for a week or more.
The daughter doesn't sound very thoughtful at all, she didn't tell her mother that the canceled Hawaii trip was back on, than doesn't mention "we're staying for 11 days, you're coming for 4 days@(which was left out on purpose).
A: plane travel can be changed. Get your ticket modified for return. MAKE it for a later return
It IS in your name.
B: book a room for the days you'd like to stay.
My son and his wife will be heading over to Europe ...I hinted that I'd meet up with them in Italy. They were thrilled! I'm a big ...fly by the seat of my pants so ..if and when we make the final arrangements...it will be alright with me on whatever we do. We each are on this earth just a brief time...let's make the best of it. Each adult can go against the grain.....or take the grain and make a meal of it ; )
Really interesting reading all of your thoughts and suggestions. I think of myself as a very easy going and forgiving person. Truly believe in “I am Right” mentality will only get you a negative and destructive mind set. However, I do not feel comfortable with putting out so much effort and money for such a short trip. In the past I probably would have gone. At this point I just do not have the desire to go. So I will be cancelling this trip.
On a side note. With reading many of these posts stating how lucky I was to be invited at all and take what I can get....left me with such an odd feeling. I understand the vast variables in family relationships. But after raising your kids and putting your whole heart into them...lucky to be invited at all leaves me with such a hollow feeling.
On a side note. With reading many of these posts stating how lucky I was to be invited at all and take what I can get....left me with such an odd feeling. I understand the vast variables in family relationships. But after raising your kids and putting your whole heart into them...lucky to be invited at all leaves me with such a hollow feeling.
I am close to my daughter. She lives more than an hour away. I see her at least once a month, mostly twice a month. She still sleeps over for holidays and birthdays. Once she marries this whole dynamic will change.
I kind of think vacationing her friends is a better option. With her friends, she'll have company to go out after dinner. I'm not dancing at a disco. I'm putting my pj on and my feet up. In 2017, we went to Rome for a week. It was perfect because her cousin was there with some of her college friends for three out of our seven days there. She got to go out with her cousin & friends while I stayed at the hotel after dinner.
I am close to my daughter. She lives more than an hour away. I see her at least once a month, mostly twice a month. She still sleeps over for holidays and birthdays. Once she marries this whole dynamic will change.
I kind of think vacationing her friends is a better option. With her friends, she'll have company to go out after dinner. I'm not dancing at a disco. I'm putting my pj on and my feet up. In 2017, we went to Rome for a week. It was perfect because her cousin was there with some of her college friends for three out of our seven days there. She got to go out with her cousin & friends while I stayed at the hotel after dinner.
At some point, mothers need to cut the cord.
I see my daughter less than two weeks a year and have been on one other vacation with her in 10 years. Cut The Cord!? I am very independent and own my own successful business. I am not clingy or desperate.It doesn’t sit well with me that this is what life is like after your children become adults.
I see my daughter less than two weeks a year and have been on one other vacation with her in 10 years. Cut The Cord!? I am very independent and own my own successful business. I am not clingy or desperate.It doesn’t sit well with me that this is what life is like after your children become adults.
Ah, I think this is where the trouble crept in; why this is bothering you so much.
Really interesting reading all of your thoughts and suggestions. I think of myself as a very easy going and forgiving person. Truly believe in “I am Right” mentality will only get you a negative and destructive mind set. However, I do not feel comfortable with putting out so much effort and money for such a short trip. In the past I probably would have gone. At this point I just do not have the desire to go. So I will be cancelling this trip.
On a side note. With reading many of these posts stating how lucky I was to be invited at all and take what I can get....left me with such an odd feeling. I understand the vast variables in family relationships. But after raising your kids and putting your whole heart into them...lucky to be invited at all leaves me with such a hollow feeling.
Ah, I think this is where the trouble crept in; why this is bothering you so much.
I am so baffled with this question!
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