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OP, am I correct in assuming that you and your BF are still really good friends with Jake like you were before Betty came on the scene? You might have liked her when she and Jake were an item but she was never your BFF, was she? After she split up with Jake I think Jake is the one you owed your first loyalties to instead of Betty, he is the one you and your BF had the closest connection with first. If you were still irritated about the "couldn't care less" dirty stunt that she pulled on the three of you a year after it happened then you were already disconnecting from her so it doesn't matter if you stopped answering her texts and deleted her from social media after she split up with Jake.
Yeah, I would've dropped her. Her actions were bizarre and showed she was untrustworthy to Jake, and to you guys that night. She's just weird. Not something good friendships are made from. Polite and acquaintance, maybe. But not friend material.
It's obvious that she had kept contact with the creepy guy, while she was still with Jake. Whether she was two-timing Jake, I don't know. I'd guess she was.
The only right answer b and b is how do you feel about her? If your gut tells you to let the friendship go, then let the friendship go. I personally have a pretty high standard on who gets into my universe. No liars, cheats, chemically dependent people, and no rectums. Life is much nicer with good people in it. She would fall into the liar and cheat category and possibly rectum too. Three strikes and you're definitely out.
She apparently didn't think the guy was creepy or didn't care. It's her life in the end, but if it bugs you that much it is your choice. You can just put it all in the past and just move on too.
I don't keep friends I can't respect. And I learned that when someone asks me to lie for them, to just immediately tell them I won't lie for them.
If this happened to me now, I would have told her, "Do whatever you like, of course, you're your own adult, but I won't like for you." And when she argued with me, I'd just keep saying, "No, I don't lie for people."
If you state something like it's a "rule" you have, people generally back down faster when they want to try to talk you into or out of something. "I don't like for people" is nice and clear and firm.
OP, am I correct in assuming that you and your BF are still really good friends with Jake like you were before Betty came on the scene? You might have liked her when she and Jake were an item but she was never your BFF, was she? After she split up with Jake I think Jake is the one you owed your first loyalties to instead of Betty, he is the one you and your BF had the closest connection with first. If you were still irritated about the "couldn't care less" dirty stunt that she pulled on the three of you a year after it happened then you were already disconnecting from her so it doesn't matter if you stopped answering her texts and deleted her from social media after she split up with Jake.
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Yeah, I thought of her as a friend but we likely wouldn't have been if she hadn't been dating him to begin with.
Thanks everyone for the replies. I haven't gotten many opinions on it from people who weren't already involved, and I've made a point of not repeating it to those in our circle who weren't there that night.
Before leaving, she told us both not to say a word about any of it to Jake.
My response to this would have been "I'm sorry, but Jake trusted us to make sure you get home. If we can't do that for whatever reason, we have to let him know."
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