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Old 02-23-2019, 04:37 AM
 
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Having a Good Sense of Judgment is Key to survival. Otherwise it would be a life of Gee follow the monkey. (Monkey see, monkey do). Most have the decency to be inquisitive towards others and from that form a final Good sense of Judgment about interaction or giving Space.

I work in the public sector and can say without a doubt my sense of judgment can be skewed at time. Been duped many a time ...so pardon if my good natured skepticism comes into play around when someone is feeding me a line.

I recall an interaction with a Person who delighted in dressing in drag....the Over the top Persona ...the enamored inquiries by this person ...took me off guard. Was I judgmental...sure! I really didn't care for this persons' " You HAVE to accept me! Because the Govt has laws on "anything Goes". In Which I replied....Indeed, you just reminded me..I must Go. Back to my humble abode ".
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Old 02-23-2019, 05:32 AM
 
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OP. Yes.
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Old 02-23-2019, 07:11 AM
 
Location: Nantahala National Forest, NC
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The only way I judge people is in how they treat others and how they treat animals, kids, elders etc.

I won't judge you for having different life choices or values than my own but I WILL judge you for mistreating those weaker than you (kids/animals/elderly). It will not be a flattering judgment.

My company does lunch interviews and we interviewed this candidate for a managerial role with part of it at a restaurant--one of the nicer ones in the area. This candidate was perfectly courteous to all of us (upper management) but was rude and condescending to the table bussers, hostess, and wait staff. When we got back to the shop and I put him in the conference room, I realized I had forgotten my interview papers and walked back to my office. The receptionist stopped me and told me that the candidate had been very rude to her. I had no interest in hiring him at this point anyhow after seeing his behavior in the restaurant and it was upsetting to hear that he had been rude to the receptionist. I went back to the candidate, thanked him for his time and told him we'd be in touch. The hiring manager wants to bring this guy on but no way, I'm not letting that happen. There are plenty of other good candidates out there who aren't total a-holes to those who they see as somehow 'beneath' them.


Me too, MJ.
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Old 02-23-2019, 07:39 AM
 
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I tend to have strong opinions about some things and sometimes wonder---where do you draw the line between having an opinion vs. being judgemental.
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Old 02-23-2019, 07:51 AM
 
Location: Nantahala National Forest, NC
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I tend to have strong opinions about some things and sometimes wonder---where do you draw the line between having an opinion vs. being judgemental.

An opinion is just that...your view.

Being negatively judgemental is an opinion gone awry in some instances. IMO, it is being extremely snide/critical of another and/or their actions without consideration of background, circumstances, whether or not the person has regrets, etc. Also seems to involve a degree of self-righteousness, jealousy, desire to hurt others and bitterness at times.
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Old 02-23-2019, 07:59 AM
 
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Do you find yourself being self-righteous?
Negatively judging others regarding their past, their status, their decisions?

How would you describe yourself?
Do you have an excessively critical view of others?

Yes, yes and yes. It's a big character flaw of mine. I've gotten better about it, but I have a long road ahead.
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Old 02-23-2019, 08:10 AM
 
Location: Wilmington, NC
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I have found myself drawing negative conclusions about people based on a single encounter with them, only to find out later that I was FLAT OUT WRONG.

I'm trying so hard to suspend judgment now - and grateful to those who do the same with me.
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Old 02-23-2019, 09:19 AM
 
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I find it pointless to judge anyone I don't intend to spend a lot of time with.

I do get more and more scrutinizing with people as they appear closer and closer within my "circle of trust." That's when it matters, right?

As for first impressions, I have very rarely been proven wrong. Decades of people watching, psychological research/contemplation, and the job I have. Makes it really easy to spot trouble.
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Old 02-23-2019, 10:26 AM
 
Location: Nantahala National Forest, NC
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I have found myself drawing negative conclusions about people based on a single encounter with them, only to find out later that I was FLAT OUT WRONG.

I'm trying so hard to suspend judgment now - and grateful to those who do the same with me.



Absolutely! My goal as well...suspend judgements. Someone got my thread!!
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Old 02-23-2019, 10:53 AM
 
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Just wondering how much insight you have...

1. Do you find yourself being self-righteous?
2. Negatively judging others regarding their past, their status, their decisions?

3. How would you describe yourself?
4. Do you have an excessively critical view of others?

5. Or do you live and let live?
1. Why, yes!
2. Of course!
3. A true pain in the (fill-in-the-blank body part).
4. You bet!
5. Nah.

It's all part of my unique charm. You're welcome.
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