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It is being critical a learned response, would you think?
To some degree it must be. Consider an infant who knows nothing about anyone. It isn't very likely to be critical of anyone beyond some intuitive instinctual level (mother-scent or face is good, safe, known). When other people start leaving an impression on the infant it learns to discriminate between people and evaluate their actions. If they do something negative to the infant the infant learns to reject or avoid them. They may not understand anything about why the person was negative, just that they were. So, they become critical. The justification for why they should or should not be critical comes later.
Last edited by Parnassia; 02-22-2019 at 03:08 PM..
Probably a mixture of inherent personality and learned behaviour, also may be due to lack of self esteem or living with regrets OR a need to feel superior. In other words I suspect there are quite a few reasons.
More to my thoughts now.....families who raise children and instill in them (teach them) to be generally critical of fellow life travelers.
Thinking of a particular family that I knew well, whose mouths spewed critical and judgemental garbage as a rule. The children grew up to be rigid, self-righteous, horrible, snide gossips with intentions of outwardly acting to disparage certain people, in order to color the perception of others and to feel better about themselves.
This is a family sickness, IMO. It's vicious and full of hate....and consumes them. Seems to me some judgemental thinking can be based on jealousy or envy. For those rigid in religious dogmatic thinking, we who don't believe or live by their creed are also subjected to critical judgements.
Now I'm judgemental....about negatively judgemental people.
I feel we all have enough on us just living, that no one needs extra criticism, insults from our fellow travelers.
Oh that we could influence these naysayers!
Perhaps we can by remaining true to our efforts to allow others to live as they see fit....and by not rising to the bait of their insulting, critical thinking and actions. Live what you believe....
I am very judgmental toward many people who I think have made bad life choices (and especially those who think others should pay for those bad choices), but I think I am very open-minded when it comes to listening to the people who disagree with me on most political issues UNLESS their views are what I consider to be extreme. (I dislike SJWs as much as I dislike white supremacists.)
More to my thoughts now.....families who raise children and instill in them (teach them) to be generally critical of fellow life travelers.
Thinking of a particular family that I knew well, whose mouths spewed critical and judgemental garbage as a rule. The children grew up to be rigid, self-righteous, horrible, snide gossips with intentions of outwardly acting to disparage certain people, in order to color the perception of others and to feel better about themselves.
This is a family sickness, IMO. It's vicious and full of hate....and consumes them. Seems to me some judgemental thinking can be based on jealousy or envy. For those rigid in religious dogmatic thinking, we who don't believe or live by their creed are also subjected to critical judgements.
Now I'm judgemental....about negatively judgemental people.
I feel we all have enough on us just living, that no one needs extra criticism, insults from our fellow travelers.
Oh that we could influence these naysayers!
Perhaps we can by remaining true to our efforts to allow others to live as they see fit....and by not rising to the bait of their insulting, critical thinking and actions. Live what you believe....
My parents and sibling are the most negative ,jaded ,critical people I’ve ever known and thankfully I’m nothing like them, which is one of the reasons I feel personality plays a role. I just happen to be a glass half full type and didn’t want to live like them. Maybe it’s self awareness and choices made early in life. Who knows. On the other hand there are those who feel every critism or disagreement or different lifestyle is a personal attack, my sis was notorious for projecting and collecting a whole catalogue of slights, injustice collector par excellence.
My parents and sibling are the most negative ,jaded ,critical people I’ve ever known and thankfully I’m nothing like them, which is one of the reasons I feel personality plays a role. I just happen to be a glass half full type and didn’t want to live like them. Maybe it’s self awareness and choices made early in life. Who knows. On the other hand there are those who feel every critism or disagreement or different lifestyle is a personal attack, my sis was notorious for projecting and collecting a whole catalogue of slights, injustice collector par excellence.
Glad to hear you've managed to be different! Hard to have a sis who collects wrongs, we all know someone like that.
My deal is with people in general who, it seems, try hard just to make someone else's life miserable. Such selfish, vicious behavior...don't they know THEY are the ones with a problem???
You aren't in it.
Maya Angelou used to say that over and over until you got it.....meaning the gossip or negative comments from others is not about you but about that person, their rigidity, refusal to be flexible and accepting of others....their need to feel important by gossiping...
I can think of several of these poor people right now...very sad. These 2 I'm thinking of are supposedly devoted church goers. LOL....
It is being critical a learned response, would you think?
For me, yes, without a doubt. My mother was critical of me and everyone else. All the time. Every day.
I know now she was coming from a very insecure place, having felt shunted aside and unloved for most of her young life. I don't hear her voice in my head nearly as much as I used to, or if I do I don’t pay it any attention.
I had to make up my mind to change. I am still a work in progress.
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