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As others have said, remind him and offer again. it sounds like he may well turn it down, but at least you asked.
(The painful part is that you'd be giving him free money that *you* already paid the taxes for...)
I don't agree, though, that you should do it with the ulterior motive that it might make him inclined to do you a favor some day. (For one, if you're already acquaintances/friends, I'd hope he doesn't forget you exist as soon as he gets into that corner office. For two, it's just borderline-shady to do something not because it's the right thing that you should do anyway but because you hope it'll get you something down the line. That's like an article I once read saying you should be nice to flight attendants because it might get you perks... all of the comments were indignantly pointing out that no, you're nice to flight attendants because they're human beings, full stop.)
I also don't think it's wrong of you to have offered or to make one final offer. I assume you're not bringing it up every five minutes and begging you to please take your money... it sounds like you mentioned it only once before.
(I also don't think it's necessarily wrong to not give it, had you not promised, considering the bonus he also got for signing up... so you might say you're even on that front. It's a nice thing to offer, and I know that in these cases it sort of feels like you made money off of another person and it's only fair to offer it, but he got his own nice bonus, so...)
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Originally Posted by MinivanDriver
2) The bonus was for performing a service for the company, not for performing a service to your friend. Therefore you earned the money.
Technically, you could say this guy helped OP get the bonus by being interested in the job and the one to get hired for it.
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Originally Posted by funymann
Wait! He got a 5-10k bonus and you want to share your referral? Why?
You got him a job! Why give him anything? He should be thanking you everytime he sees you.
I suppose since you said you would you should honor it but I would word it like, “Did you still want half of my itsy bitsy referral bonus since your bonus was waaaaaaaay more than mine?” Haha!
You are way too nice. Again, he should be giving half of his signing bonus to you and if he doesn’t say that he stinks.
OP only referred him. The guy got the job on his own merits. If he hadn't been qualified and the best candidate for the job, I doubt anything OP could have done would've hauled him onto the payroll. OP didn't drag him kicking and screaming through the hiring process and hold a gun to HR's head to make them hire his friend. And unless it's a situation where someone can't even apply for the job without having a referral from an employee, then it sounds like what OP did was say "Hey, there's this opening at my company that you might be interested in," and "hey Company, I know this guy, he's gonna apply, you should check him out." The alternative would be... the friend might've found the job listing on his own, and it sounds like he was qualified enough to get hired anyway-- the worst that would have happened is that he wouldn't have heard about it if OP hadn't told him, and he would've found a job somewhere else.
Thanks again everyone. I will absolutely be offering him the money. if he doesn't take it, great. if he takes it, that's fine too. i won't get rich or go broke with either decision.
So, now i'm wondering how to best do it.....should i:
A. give him a check tomorrow for the ~450 and sign it and say hey, here's your half of the amount that got to my checking account, as promised
B. 'tell him' tomorrow that i'll be giving him the money that i had promised, the next time i see him (which would be next week Monday), and see what he says....if he says no, then i'd drop it, and if he says ok, then i give him a check on monday
C. tell him he's not only NOT getting my half of the bonus, but I'm demanding half of his bonus check, as well as 3 years hard labor in my backyard from his first born son.
Thanks again everyone. I will absolutely be offering him the money. if he doesn't take it, great. if he takes it, that's fine too. i won't get rich or go broke with either decision.
So, now i'm wondering how to best do it.....should i:
A. give him a check tomorrow for the ~450 and sign it and say hey, here's your half of the amount that got to my checking account, as promised
B. 'tell him' tomorrow that i'll be giving him the money that i had promised, the next time i see him (which would be next week Monday), and see what he says....if he says no, then i'd drop it, and if he says ok, then i give him a check on monday
C. tell him he's not only NOT getting my half of the bonus, but I'm demanding half of his bonus check, as well as 3 years hard labor in my backyard from his first born son.
Choose wisely...
Hmm. I think I'd back into it a bit more. When you see him next, mention that your bonus came through and that it was surprising how much gets withheld from bonuses. Remind him that your offer to split it still stands. See what he says after that. You are giving him the opening...he'll probably still say forget it. There's your answer. No potentially awkward detail over checks or accounts needs to come up.
Thanks again everyone. I will absolutely be offering him the money. if he doesn't take it, great. if he takes it, that's fine too. i won't get rich or go broke with either decision.
So, now i'm wondering how to best do it.....should i:
A. give him a check tomorrow for the ~450 and sign it and say hey, here's your half of the amount that got to my checking account, as promised
B. 'tell him' tomorrow that i'll be giving him the money that i had promised, the next time i see him (which would be next week Monday), and see what he says....if he says no, then i'd drop it, and if he says ok, then i give him a check on monday
C. tell him he's not only NOT getting my half of the bonus, but I'm demanding half of his bonus check, as well as 3 years hard labor in my backyard from his first born son.
Keep your word and do what you claimed you would do if he had gotten the job...which he did.Give him the half.A person's word should mean more then anything.It can show a person's true character.
Me? I'd mention that my bonus finally came in and remind him the offer to split is still open. When he turns it down again I'd offer to treat him to a nice meal to 'celebrate' the bonus and leave it at that. I'm willing to bet he's more interested in your friendship than in your money.
Me? I'd mention that my bonus finally came in and remind him the offer to split is still open. When he turns it down again I'd offer to treat him to a nice meal to 'celebrate' the bonus and leave it at that. I'm willing to bet he's more interested in your friendship than in your money.
Exactly what I was going to say. If this guy really is a friend (which it sounds like he is), he will enjoy your company at a meal more than he would enjoy getting the money.
I agree. Then you'll have fulfilled your obligation. Why did you only get 850.00 of 2000?
Taxes!
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